Post # 1
So my photographer mentioned to me about doing an empty table. I wasn’t sure what she was getting at, but she explained and it seemed kind of cool. I guess a lot of people do this.
You set up an extra table and leave two chairs- this is suppose to symbolize all the people that are gone that you would have liked to be at your wedding. Basically a tribute to remembering the family that has passed on. I thought it was a neat idea.
Post # 3
I’ve only heard about it since being on here. I haven’t decided whether to do it or not. It might make me cry even more!
Post # 4
Personally, I think it’s kind of weird. We didn’t really have a ton of extra space in our venue for another table and I just don’t get paying for all the trappings–renting the table, chairs, linens, centerpieces, etc. And I don’t know if guests would understand why it was there.
I’ve seen people leave empty seats at the front of the ceremony to represent the same thing, and it seems like less of a hassle to me.
Post # 5
If you have the space. but you can also just put pictures of those people at the entrance on the guestbook table. Ive seen that done before.
Post # 6
I’ve been to lots of functions that had a sweetheart table set with two empty setting and a vase with two red roses to symbolize those who couldn’t be there. Mostly it was to represent the fallen military members, but I think it would be sweet to do at a wedding too.
Post # 7
Never heard of it, unless it’s commonly done in your area I think a lot of guests might not know what it was.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception
This is done at military dining outs all the time for POW/MIA.
In the military, they usually have a small table set up with a white tablecloth (symbolizing the purity of their intentions to respond to their country’s call to arms).A single rose displayed in a vase reminds us of the families and loved ones of our comrades-in-arms who kept the faith awaiting their return. A red ribbon is tied on the vase.
Post # 9
LOL, knowing my family and their RSVP habits- an empty table would probably be filled! I remember they had to bring in another table at my sister’s wedding.
Post # 10
I think it’s a little creepy and seems more appropriate for some kind of memorial service for a wedding. Weddings are supposed to be happy times and I think if I came across an empty table to honor the dead that my mood would definitely be brought down. It seems more appropriate for a memorial type event.
But what about honoring the deceased in another way? A table with pictures of them with flowers? Say something during the ceremony? A line honoring them on the programs?
If you do go the empty table route, make sure you put a sign up that explains otherwise you might find your guests using that table.
Post # 11
Seems a little weird to me. If I came to a wedding with an empty table, I would think that someone screwed up and forgot a table.
Post # 12
The one thing my mom has asked is that we don’t do anything at the wedding regarding people who have passed. She finds it incredibly creepy and sad when it’s supposed to be a happy day. I agree.
I will be carrying something in my bouquet to remember my grandfather, but only my mom and gram will be aware of this.
Post # 13
Personally, I think it’s a little morbid. I’d prefer a picture area, a lit candle or a short toast or something to honor loved ones.
Post # 14
i think an entire empty table would look weird during the reception, like you had a bunch of not show up. i like the idea of saving two chairs at the ceremony, though.
plus its an extra centerpice and linen 🙂
Post # 15
What if someone sits there?
Post # 16
lol I dunno if someone sits there. My photographer showed me pictures of this at someone’s wedding. I thought it was a neat idea. I don’t have anyone close to me who passed away, I think the girl who did it her parents might have passed away or something.