Post # 1
This question is kind of enbarrasing but I need some advice.. I have 3 kids. The older one(14 yr) I deliver vaginally with alot of vaginal trauma. Second one is 4yr old he was delivered by c-section due to some medical problems. The third one is 6 months. I choose a vaginal delivery (I had an option) because i did not want a c section again. At the time of my baby birth my doctor was not available, baby was delivered by a midwife. I got a lot of vaginal tearings, some of then by the labia. I was stiched off, but after the stiched healed I can see that my vagina do not look the same, it looks like one labia is still torn, you can see a gap. My doctor said they did not stiched me up right, that a tear in that part of the vagina is sometimes hard to repair. She said that she can fix it. Problem is I am not sure if I want to go though the procedure, its no so simple as it sounds… Its only cosmetic, husband says it looks “fine”, but I know its not. We thing we are finish having kids…. Any suggestions.
Post # 3
Men are pretty simple people. If he honestly wanted you to “fix” it, he’d go, “Wellll… maybe it’s something to think about.”
If he thinks it looks fine, he thinks it looks fine. We as women tend to read into things that men say because women notoroiously “speak without speaking” what they really want to say.
If you are uncomfortable with it, get it done. But I would trust that your husband thinks you look fine the way you are.
Post # 5
Are you having issues or is it just a looks thing? If it’s just something you don’t like the look of, I would forgo the surgery. If it works fine and feels fine and your hubby is fine with it, then I would jusyt live with it. But that is just me… I also have 3 kids, about to have my 4th and I tore with all 3 even though they were small babies. I know my va-jayjay looks tore up but who cares. No one is looking at it, least of all me. 🙂
Post # 6
@brokeninnj: If it bothers you (and it seems to because you posted about it), I would get it fixed. It may just be cosmetic and maybe your husband is fine with it – but if it something you don’t want to live with then you shouldn’t have to.
Post # 7
Well seeing that you already had two bad experiences and still do not prefer a csection, i would advise you to wait till you are all done with having children.
Reading this makes me feel pretty good about deciding on a second csection! i have huge babies. i just knew what could happen. If it were me, id worry about my poor boobies getting redone than something that is usually hidden inside me.