Post # 1
Just a question I’ve been curious about – anyone who has been married before, engaged before, or even just thinking about engagement with a previous boyfriend, feel free to answer!
How do your current rings differ from the rings from your previous relationship? Are they similar at all?
Did you change the way you picked them out (i.e. you chose it the first time, this time he had free rein, etc.)?
Pictures are always welcome. 🙂
Post # 3
I had a boyfriend propose in high school and give me a sapphire and diamond chip band in yellow gold. A lot like this one:
I really liked it at the time, though I had no say in it. It was very understated. I sold it a few years ago, it was better than keeping it and the old memories around.
My ex gave me an heirloom ring — it was his mother’s, a vintage ring even then, with a decent sized diamond in an art deco kind of setting in platinum. The diamond had a noticable visible inclusion, but it was really a lovely ring. It was big for my hand and my taste, and I had no say in it. No pictures of that one, unfortunately.
My SO and I picked out my ring this time around — a diamond cluster ring in a star shape on a knife platinum band that we got secondhand. It’s small and elegant, and it suits me immensely. The quality is excellent, and I can’t wait to wear it. I don’t have a picture, but it’s similar to this one:
Post # 4
I haven’t got an e-ring (yet) but I have one left from an previous engagement: my SO can’t do worse. He asked me what I liked and got me a total different ring. Proposal was lame as well so looking forward to what’s coming:)
Post # 5
My ex got me a three stone ring (purchased with stolen money) that he came in with and threw on the bed, saying ‘here’. Yup, that was my proposal. You can imagine I was in a bad place to have said yes. I ended up pawning it for like 80 bucks or something ridiculous like that just to be rid of it.
My new ring is a 1 ct total weight halo (1/2 ct. princess cut center stone). I completely love it. Although the rings are completely different, the men are even more so. I am very blessed to be marrying a kind, honest, amazing man and not a piece of shit drug addict!!
Post # 6
I got married with a (ribbed) yellow gold band the first time around. I wanted it to be a plain dome yellow gold band but ex insisted – his choice.
This time – and definitely the last and best time around – I got married with a 2mm dome white gold band – I also have an e-ring/anniversary band/and eternity band. Perfect!
Post # 7
ex got me a 1.75, D, VVS1, ideal cut from Jared’s in this setting:
Current Fiance got me a 1.70, I color, Vs1, ideal hearts and arrows cut from a local jeweler:
Post # 8
I was engaged before (about 5 years ago when I was 23) and now my current SO and I are ring shopping. I DO NOT want a ring like my last one; if anyone were to look at my ring and say “oh… it’s just like the last time you were engaged” I’d just die.
Problem is I still love square solitaries. I’m trying to keep it as different as I can from last time but still get the same general style.
Last ring (not a great picture) just over 1.5ct solitaire princess on a plain band:
This time around; 1.3ct solitaire square radiant on a 2mm band with channel-set princess diamonds (unless I change my mind again before we buy…)
Last time I had no idea about diamond quality etc. This time I’m a lot more educated. I actually didn’t even really like my last ring; I wanted it designed to look like the Tiffany Lucida but feel like it didn’t turn out how I pictured it at all; I hated how thick the band was.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
I had a 1 carat natural blue green sapphire that was never set. I wanted to put it into an antique style setting. I had a white and rose gold wedding band that had stars in the rose gold inlay. I will give both to my daughter when she gets older.
My current engagement ring is platinum with an untreated 2.36 celestial compass purple color change sapphire. It has about a carat in diamonds in it as well. The wedding band will be segments of the dragonfly bodies with another .8 carats in diamond, and possibly a hidden green and purple diamond inside.
Post # 10
My ex Fiance gave me this one, it’s a garnet, his birthstone (insert eye roll and coughing here) that looked like this one: I had another Fiance in college, three stone emerald ring with diamonds between the emeralds. SO Darling Husband proposed with a Diamond lol very different from the other ones.
Post # 11
My ex got me a .25 princess cut in yellow gold(that he took the money out of OUR savings to buy and then wanted the ring back(he didn’t get it!)
This time around, I don’t want a diamond. My SO is have a ring custom made with a .75 Chrysoberyl that I picked out. I saw a sketch of my ring by accident this weekend. It will be in a halo setting(yay!!)And in white gold as I do not wear yellow gold.
Post # 12
First time I got engaged the ring had a princess cut centre stone with four round diamonds on each side and had a pretty thick (white gold) band. Next time I want. Solitaire but I do still love princess cut.
The proposal that time was pretty much non existent. He was hungover and told me he bought me a present… No proposal, just said that since we bought a house together he figured he had no choice. I didn’t really want to get engaged yet but, same thing, since we bought a house together I figured I couldn’t say no.
Post # 13
My first engagement I had a square diamond solitare in white gold probably about a 1/4 of a carat. This time around I got a aquamarine soltaire set sideways on a white gold band and my wedding band is a marquise shaped diamond and onyx band which I love and is similar to his band.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I have been proposed to three times by three different men. I have loved all of my rings and after seeing them next to one another, they are all very modest but classicaly styled rings.
#1 – .5 Leo Diamond classic solitaire in a white gold setting (I just wanted a classic ring I could dress up with different bands and wraps; shopped with Boyfriend or Best Friend for this one)
#2 – .5 Ceylon sapphire flanked by two diamonds in a white gold setting (ex husband paid attention when I asked for a sapphire center stone; had no idea ex husband was shopping much less proposing)
#3 – .5 diamond surrounded by a halo antique white gold setting (great grandma’s family heirloom ring)
Post # 15
I am engaged to my partner. We were engaged a year ago, called off teh wedding, and then ended our relationship a month after…. then we got back together. We are engaged again, but using the same ring (I kept it and had put it away. I honestly hadn’t decided what to do with it!). So, same ring there. I was married once before (so was he). My stone is very similar but the setting is pretty different. My partner and I chose the setting together and I really love it. My setting before was plain and thick. I alos didn’t like my wedding band at all, but had no choice in that matter what so ever. I love my wedding band and am excited to wear it. It’s silly maybe, but I really wanted a wedding band that wasn’t completely plain and mine this time will have chanell set stones. I think it really goes well with my ring.
Here they are together
Post # 16
@Cyclebride: Um FWIW, I cannot wait to see this ring when it’s finished!!! 🙂