(Closed) Encore brides-to-be, did your SO ask your parents for permission?

posted 8 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My Fiance asked my Dad…

He picked up the ring from the store, met my Dad at his work with a “car problem” question and then asked him. He came home, we were just laying on the couch and he proposed (all this in the same day!). COMPLETELY out of the blue. I had no idea he was even ring shopping. We had looked at rings 1-2 years ago and that was it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Mine did…big bonus points as my ex-husband did NOT!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Nah…he didn’t. He is an encore groom…I am a first-time bride. I have been on my own for over 12 years raising my daughter as a single mom. He asked my daughter’s permission =)

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Yes, he did because he wanted to make sure he had their blessing, which he did – of course!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

He did ask my dad.  And he won major points because the ex never did!

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Mine actually did ask my dad (or tell him his intentions and ask for my dad’s blessing) although I had no idea at the time.  He told me about it after he proposed, and I thought it was a very sweet move and completely unexpected.  My ex never did this, and my parents were NOT happy that he and I were getting married.  It is so nice to have their blessing and support this time around.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

He asked my dad when my parents were helping us move.  I still can’t get over my dad’s response… Fiance and I have been together for 4 years and my dad said, “what took you so long!” I couldn’t believe it!! Still in shock and we’ve been engaged since April 2009.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think I would be insulted if the Boy asks my dad for permission. For me, (even though I’m not engaged yet) getting married again will be completely my decision. It’s about me making my own choices for my life and not doing anything to please anyone else, and certainly not asking for their permission.

I do not want my dad to walk me down the aisle (been there, done that) and I don’t want a father/daughter dance. I want everything just to be between and about me and the Boy.

BUT… I will say I do have issues with my dad (who I love to death) overstepping his bounds and always treating me like I’m still in the fifth grade.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Asked both mom & dad for permission (loved the equal opportunityness!)  As independent as I am, I definitely fall back on tradition for some things and truly appreciated the effort (seeing as we live far from them, be actually made a trip to FL where they live to ask them — all without my knowledge. Major brownie points!)

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Nope, my mom and I are not close and I haven’t talked to my father in many years. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Fiance didn’t ask, but we discussed it with them before it was official.  They offered to pay for the honeymoon before he proposed, so we decided that they were ok with it!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m not sure who would have laughed harder if she had–me or my parents.  I have very limited contact with my father, and none with my mother.  Also, I can’t imagine needing permission from anyone to get married in my 20s, and it would have been totally ludicrous in my 50s.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My father passed away 10 years ago, so he asked the minister what to do.  He said “ask her son..after all, he’s the little man of the house!”.

And he did!  My son was thrilled!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

@Bellenga: I actually like the idea of asking the kids. I would totally love it if the Boy asked the kids, although I could see my 4 year-old daughter giving him a hillarious response.

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