Post # 32
As a result of a failed engagement, I ended up with an engagement ring, a promise ring, and 2 wedding bands…one plain gold and one eternity band. Immediatley after the break-up I offered to give them all back, and he wouldn’t take them back, so when I was finally ready to part with them. I sold the gold for cash, and up traded the diamonds for a tennis bracelet, a set of diamond earrings and a right hand ring! At first, the thought of wearing something everyday that I knew he contributed to was weird, but the more that I thought about it, we had a successful relationship while it lasted, in the end the seperation was mutual and we both knew we were moving on to better things in our lives. We also had been living together with joint finances for over 2 years, so for all I knew, I had paid for my own jewlery in the first place! Now, the novelty has worn off, and all of those pieces sit in my jewlery box…I guess I’ll pass them on one day, or trade them in again!
Post # 33
I threw mine at his feet the day I left, lol! Over the ensuing years, I told him I was fine with him selling them – I took nothing from the divorce and didn’t want the rings, either. We remained friends but he’s always dreamed of a reconcillitation, so I have a sneaking suspicion that he has kept them all of these years. 🙁
Post # 34
The day before my divorce was final I went to the store where he bought my ring and traded it for a fabulous birthstone ring with diamonds. I remember sitting next to my lawyer at the courthouse, he looked down at my hand and asked what happened to my wedding rings, I told him I had traded them, he thought it was funny!
Post # 35
Well I had a non-traditional ring for my 1st marriage and it really didn’t look like a wedding ring and it had no band. It was more of a cocktail ring with lots of baguette diamonds. I gave it to my mom because she didn’t really have any nice jewelry and she loves big rings… so it worked for me and it’s a new ring for her and I honestly think she likes it more than I ever did. We both win. I don’t even notice when she wears it… it wasn’t that I didn’t like the ring. I just didn’t like the guy anymore. lol
Post # 36
@2dBride: I like that your son saw it as something positive since it resulted in him and wants to give it to his fiance.
Post # 37
@chirod: Yeah, he’s a good kid! (Well, he’s an adult now, but he’ll always be my kid.)
Post # 38
My mom had her diamonds & gold from her wedding ring, engagement ring and promise rings from my father reset into a pendant. I had no sentimentality about the rings (my parents divorced when I was 5) but I quite like the pendant and hope to wear it one day.
Post # 39
well, I ATTEMPTED to sell the engagement ring, to pay for my divorce attorney-at which time I found out that the diamond was a cubic zirconia. Yeah…I picked a winner there. LOL. I still have it swimming around in my jewelry box.
Post # 40
I sold my ring. It was gorgeous, but every time I looked at it, I saw pain. It reminded me of how my xh broke our vows.
I certainly didn’t want to gift it later in life to say, my son’s future fiance because of that history either. My xh also owed me money, so I did the smart thing and sold it. At the time, my little boy and I needed the money.
It was gorgeous, a 2.5 ct radiant diamond solitaire with 3 cts of baguettes all around the ring set in platinum. I hope it makes somebody else really happy!
That’s another good reason to sell it…to make somebody else happy. I hope the ring does give alot of love and happiness to its’ new wearer..somewhere.
Post # 41
I decided to save it along with lots of other things from our marriage for our children when they get older. I’m sure my daughter espically would love to have it when she’s older. I have put all our wedding pictures, rings, scrapbooks, pretty much anything related to him in a large storage container. As far as I’m concerned, all of that belongs to them now. I would never consider using for a new piece of jewerly because honestly I could never wear it without thinking of him. yuck.
Post # 42
I still don’t know what to do with my old engagement ring but I just read through all these posts and I’m starting to feel I should sell it, even if I only get a few hundred dollars those could be the few hundred dollars that upgrade our suite during our honeymoon or pay for our cupcake wedding cake.
Post # 43
Here’s a story for you. I had my wedding rings and sold them for cash to put towards the engagement ring that my Fiance and I chose together. The way I figured it, it was all “our” money anyway so no big deal. However, I had the diamond from another ring that had a ton of sentimental value to me – not because of who gave it to me but because of what that diamond meant to me.
You see, I was in a very abusive marriage. He could be extremely violent and every time that he got really angry with me, he would take this particular ring away from me and hold it hostage. When I was finally able to leave the marriage, after 8 years of hell, I wanted that ring back. I didn’t want anything else, but I wanted that ring. I had endured 8 years of blood, sweat, and tears and I had SURVIVED. Not only did I survive, I endured and continue to endure. I fought for that ring in the divorce and got it and when he wouldn’t cough it up, I got the police involved and was finally able to physically get the ring.
When my Fiance and were discussing our future and decided that we would be choosing a ring together so that we both loved it, we talked about selling my diamond. The problem was that it meant so much to me, and it represented my strength and power as a woman, I didn’t want to sell it. Finally I asked my sweetheart if he minded using the diamond in our ring… to give it additional meaning of love and future. He agreed and now I have the most beautiful ring on my hand 🙂
Post # 44
His swallow…. That was beautiful. I’ve never thought of it that way, but that was a beautiful story. Congratulations. That is one gorgeous ring.
Post # 45
@Jill0212: awww thank you 🙂 I should also mention that the diamond was not from my engagement ring. It was a ring purchased several years after the wedding 🙂
Post # 46
I put the engagement ring and both mine & my ex husbands bands up for our daughter. My marriage simply just didn’t work out. I have no ill will towards my exhusband and my daughter knows we both love her with all of our hearts. What she does with them when she grows up is her business.