(Closed) Encore, but haven't told the coworkers, is that okay?

posted 6 years ago in Encore
  • poll: Should I tell coworkers I'm an encore bride? (possible shower coming soon)
    They don't need to know, they weren't in your life for the first time : (50 votes)
    91 %
    You should tell them, it's the polite thing to do : (3 votes)
    5 %
    Other, please make a note in the comments : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    11272 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    i don’t think it really makes much of a difference.  if they choose to throw you a shower it’s b/c they want to not b/c they think you need one.

    p.s.  i still have a few items from my previous shower/wedding too.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I don’t think you need to tell them. They don’t need to know such personal details about your life.

    Post # 5
    Member
    207 posts
    Helper bee

    They do not need to know personal history, they are throwing you a shower and that is really wonderful! all brides can have showers. Plus the new things will help you start your new married life together, so in a way it really is a fresh slate, enjoy it!

    Post # 6
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    1925 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I agree with PPs, definitely not their business, they don’t need to know.

    Post # 7
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    928 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    If you aren’t close enough friends with them that they don’t already know that you were married once, I don’t think you need to be obligated to tell them now.

    Post # 8
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    1358 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    A wedding is a wedding, and encore or not, it’s a reason to celebrate! I don’t think you need to broadcast that you’re an encore bride to the world because, honestly, it shouldn’t matter. Your coworkers just want to show you how happy they are for you by throwing you a shower/party, and I’m sure they wouldn’t be any less happy for you if they knew you were an encore bride.

    Post # 9
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    19 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I don’t think you need to tell them…I am curious why would it be a problem with them thorwing you a shower and you accepting? It is a celebration and its not like you got married 6 months ago got divorced and are getting married again to another person…like when you have babies when they are so far apart (9 years) they don’t say don’t give her another shower because she already has a girl it is definitely starting over again with a 9 year old and a newborn you know what I mean?

    Post # 11
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    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Wait…people throw showers for encores?  Really?  What if I don’t want one, we’ve both been on our own (separately) for a lot of years and own homes, we really don’t need anything or expect to have anything more than a beach wedding and a celebration with friends.  No gifts, ever.  

    Post # 12
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    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    No need to go out of your way to tell them.  If someone asked, I wouldn’t lie but otherwise no it’s not their business.

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