Post # 1
At my first wedding my side of the family made up 130 people of the 150 guest list. I have a huge family and my mom was paying so when she said HER cousins were coming I didn’t really care. (My ex’s family was tiny, its not like they weren’t invited!)
This time we are having a much smaller guest list. I never talk to my second and third cousins. I have TONS of cousins who all have families of their own. I’m not sure yet who is gonna make the list and who is not. At the same time I want them to know I’m excited about getting married.
Would it be weird to send people who are not invited to the wedding something like yay, I got married with a picture? If its not too weird, before the wedding or afterwards?
Post # 3
A wedding announcement isn’t really common any more, but that is what you would send. People use them a little more often when they’ve had a destination wedding or eloped.
They are usually worded something to the effect of “Miss Suzie Q and Mr Joe Schmo were married on Saturday, April 30 in Kansas City, Missouri”. Some people also put their address “Following the honeymoon, they are at home at 123 Main St., Kansas City, Missouri”.
A wedding picture is often included. I got one with a link to the photographers website also.
Post # 4
I plan on sending wedding announcements and wedding photos to people that are not invited. I am also sending wedding photos in christmas cards for guests which were invited and did / did not come. They are not overly common but I think it is a great way to include people 🙂
Post # 5
I think sending the wedding announcements can be ok, however I won’t be doing so. While I invited pretty much anyone I could find to my first wedding, I too am having a much smaller and more intimate ceremony for this go round. There are some Aunts and first cousins who did not make the cut and I’m already hearing gripes via the grapevine of the “I wasn’t invited” nonsense. Oh well.
Post # 6
Ok thanks, I dont feel so wacky now. We plan on getting married in August, and Ive always wanted to start sending Christmas cards to EVERYONE, so perhaps waiting to do both together wouldn’t be too bad. I like that idea. 🙂