(Closed) Encores: The last name? To take or not?

posted 12 years ago in Encore
  • poll: Are you changing your last name?

    Yes - it will be legally be that of my new husband

    Sort of - I will socially go by my new husband's last but will not officially change it

    Sort of - I am hyphenating it or using a double last name (if so, what about your middle name?)

    No - I go by my maiden name or my previous husband's last (please specify which)

    Other - I'll explain in the comments

  • Post # 3
    234 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’m going to change my last name.  It’s going to be wierd and feel so funny.  Right now my initals are RED and after we get married they will be REJ – I know, it’s silly, but I’m a little nutty.

    I do worry about my daughter having her father’s name, but she is older and it’s so common now, that I don’t think it would be a big issue at any point.

    What are you doing?

    Post # 5
    8029 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’m still undecided.  I don’t care for the ex’s last name- but I kept it for my daughter.  Love the maiden name, would like to go back- but it would hurt the future hubby.  Still contemplating.

    Post # 6
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010
    Post # 7
    29 posts
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I don’t have any children so the choice was clear for me.  I ditched the ex’s last name in favor of the new husband’s last name.  🙂

    Post # 8
    57 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Keeping my maiden name.  I’ve didn’t change it the first time and am not doing it this time either.  I like my last name and don’t want to change it at all. 

    Post # 9
    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I already hyphenate my last name.  I wanted to do that after my divorce because it was important in the reclaiming “me” process but I wanted my son’s teachers to know I’m his mom and not be confused b/c I had a different last name.

    The jury’s still out on the whole name change thing now.  I want to do what’s best for everybody.  My son, T and of course me.  I also have my maiden name on professional licenses too so that’s something to consider. 

    Post # 10
    1205 posts
    Bumble bee

    I never went back to my maiden name after my divorce.  It was easier with kids starting school and all of that (plus the married name was WAY easier to pronounce and spell)

    When FH and I get married, I will take his name.  So I’m going from:

    First Middle Last to First Middle Hislast

    My kids are old enough now to say “my mom’s remarried” and it won’t offend me if they call me Mrs. Kidslastname

    Post # 11
    2633 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’m taking FI’s last name.  Currently I have my ex’s last name because it was just too much of a hassle to change and professionally everyone knew me by that name.  That and I have no ties to my maiden name whatsoever.

    Post # 12
    3575 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Since I’m a slightly older bride and will be 38 when I get married, I’m using both my last name and his.  Not sure about the whole legality thing…I suppose I’ll legally change it and just make my last name my middle name.  Or maybe he can just take my last name?!  Wink

    Post # 13
    357 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    It hasn’t shaped my decision at all.  I took my ex-husbands name, and I’ll take this one too.  Just my own preference…

    Post # 14
    158 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    I will retain my first (late) husbands name… (maiden name was impossible!) I may change my name in the future when my son is done with school…TBD hyphenating is too much for me (both names are long-ish)

    Post # 15
    244 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i cant wait to take his name. i have kept my xh last name since the divorce because my daughter shares that name, but i have wanted FI’s last name since i was 13! and… its a possibility my xh may give up his rights and allow Fiance to adopt.. so i hope we can all have one last name.

    Post # 16
    1268 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Im torn as well.  Maiden name was four letters, first marriage four letters, my fi- has 10.  No kids involved but had first married name since I was 19, all university records are in that.  Upside is I keep moving forward in the alphabet, born a K, married an F, could be a C.  Fiance jokes I have to look for A if there is a third time.

    He “says” he is ok with keeping first marriage name, but I don’t think he really is. So, it’s a puzzlement what to do.  And there is the EX- Mrs. C who has his children. It will drive her nutty.

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