- 6 years ago
Since I was the last one to bring up marriage a few weeks ago, I’ve been just trying to keep that to myself and give him some space to think about it on his own.
Well he brought up the subject on his own, night before last while we were watching tv and having a glass of wine. We talked about how we both felt about our relationship, what would change or not by getting married, why I wanted to get married, how he felt about the idea etc.
He said that he’s not opposed to marriage and that he felt we are committed to each other already and that people usually perceive us as married when we go places together.
I told him how I felt- that I want to marry HIM, not just to get married. That I’m happy with the relationship as is, but I worry about the legal, medical, estate planning and tax issues that we face not being married but building a life together, buying a home etc. I also want to be able to call him my husband and have that public recognition of the relationship. It feels silly for him to be just my boyfriend in my 30’s when we live together essentially as a married couple. I was surprised to learn that I’m the beneficiary on his life insurance (I didn’t know he had a policy.) We talked about finances and debt and living wills and such too-very romantic. Lol.
He isn’t really the type to do anything because that’s what people expect, and so it’s good that we can talk about the whys and hows of it so I’m really glad it’s something he’s ready to talk about and consider.
- This topic was modified 5 years, 11 months ago by identicallists.