- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Hey bee’s! It has been about 6 months or more since my last post. First off, I just want to start by saying thank you to everyone of you who helped me through my hard time- I was having a hard time deciding if/how I should end things with my ex-fiance and I received so much support!
It’s now 8 months later and I am a completely new woman. I broke it off with my ex and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do but I cannot stress to you how much happier I am with my life! My ex was never a mean or condescending person, he just was not right for me. For some reason I could not wrap my head or heart around the fact that it was simple as that. But it really is. If you don’t feel that he is absolutely right, don’t do it! YES it is so hard to break someones heart, I don’t pretend that it’s easy for one second. You do not need any more reason to leave than the fact that it doesn’t feel right.
**Note: this post is to give strength to those who have already decided that they want to leave, but do not know how. It’s not to tell those who are engaged not to get married. If he’s right, DO IT!
During conversations with friends and family at that time in my life, I discovered this: He may be a great and wonderful guy. He doesn’t have to be a jerk in order for you not to want to be with him. Maybe he is just a certain kind of great and wonderful that another woman needs in her life. We all have different needs and we all have different paths. I feel that everyone crosses your path for a reason. Lessons were learned and hearts were broken but I am one step closer to knowing what I want and who I am. It was time to move on and a time to be strong.
For those who have found their one and only and know it- I am so incredibly happy to read all of your posts. That is how it should be and that is so good for you all! One day I will find that one person who I can give my whole heart to and know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I am so happy for all those who do!
The purpose of this post is just to encourage- I remember reading through posts to see if anyone was going through what I did and it was so encouraging to read the stories of making it through a hard break up or figuring out what to do. There are other people in the same boat. It will be okay! I have a whole new energy and I have discovered a new, more strong and independent version of myself that some day one man will love about me. I feel like that is important. I waited to write this post until I was at a point of peace in my heart so I could write without bias from my emotions. Do what you know is right. Take the time you need, talk to people you can trust and have courage!
Ladies, you are strong. Do what feels right in your heart and follow your gut instinct. You’ll never meet the right person if you’re wasting time with the wrong one!