(Closed) End a 10-year relationship with a wedding two months away?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1013 posts
Bumble bee

You both seem very torn.  There are outstanding issues which are clearly unresolved which have prevented this from being the happy and loving time it should be.  With such anxiety, i do not think you should get married. 

You will NEED to seek couples counselling.  I’m not sure if we here can help much here as we aren’t therapists and cant understand the deep emotional issues at hand.  Buts its clear that just because marriage is the next logical step, your emotionals are telling you it might not be the best decision. 

Good luck

Post # 4
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If you are having doubts now, I wouldnt go through with a wedding at this point in time. Why not give it a couple more years, or until you feel you two make each other complete in your lives. To be happy with someone else, you first have to be happy with yourself.

I can’t imagine how tough it is for you right now and how confusing it must be for you. I hope things get better, but from the sounds of your post IMO you’re not ready to get married – yet.

I wish you all the best!

Post # 5
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4824 posts
Honey bee

You dont have to be with everyone you love. In fact, not everyone should be with everyone you love. Sometimes circumstances make it so that not being with them is the best course of action.

I say this because even though you love him, that is not enough to have a healthy and happy relationship if all these other issues are persistant. They will not go away without lots of work and some of them, your feelings about yourself and your career/freedom etc, may grow worse over time and turn into resentment.

Never let wedding plans dictate what you should do that is in the best interest of your future. 

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