- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Hello, everyone! I am new to this site as of today and really need some advice.
My fiance and I got engaged in November and are planning to get married June of this year. When we first started dating, it was absolutely perfect. He would always get me surprises, text me, call me, etc. He still does these things for me, but it’s a lot less frequent.
What is scaring me now is his violence/anger issues. It’s not phsyical, but extremely verbal. (Although one time he was trying to leave me stranded at his house without a vehicle so I was clinging on to him so he wouldn’t go and he threw me on the ice and hurt me.. besides the point.) At least once a week he gets super angry at me. He typically storms out/drives away pissy, yells, screams, or calls me names. His favorite line is, “I didn’t do SHIT!”
Now, I wasn’t raised in a violent/angry household so I don’t feel like this is acceptable behavior.
He’s called me a bitch, f***ing jerk, his “mommy”, etc. Today, he said that I stress him out so much I’m giving him gray hairs and all I do is ride his ass. Why is he even with me if he feels this way?!
We have talks where he says he won’t keep storming off and getting mad, but he still does it. He apologizes, and it gets better for awhile then it keeps happening. I love him, but I’m young and afraid that once we get married this will all just get even worse. I graduate college in two months, we’re supposed to be moving in together in one month, and then the wedding in three. I just don’t know if I should keep trying and trying and trying or just end it? I love him and can’t imagine my life without him.. but I also can’t imagine having this for the rest of my life either.
I know I’m not perfect and I know I can nag him sometimes too, so I don’t want this to seem like I think it’s all him. It’s not. I can deal with arguments, just not the anger and violence.