(Closed) Ended Engagement (Update)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Good for you.  Glad you’re happy!  All the best.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

good luck!  It sounds like you made the right choice 🙂

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@CaliBride92:  

A good friend of mine had her engagement called off 2 weeks before the wedding (not by her choice though) and a month later began dating her current husband with whom she is supremely happy and has 2 gorgeous children. Take it slowly, people will tell you its too soon, maybe it is maybe it isn’t, but is possible to find “Mr Right” soon after leaving Mr Wrong. Good luck to you!

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I found my “one” while in my previous divorce process. Love comes unexpectedly sometimes :). I am not engaged to him and am getting married september this year :oD. Good luck! It can happen. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Not after cancelling a wedding, but I did start dating Darling Husband one week after breaking up with my ex, who I had been with for 6 years and was living with (got tired of waiting, didn’t want the same things out of life, fell out of love, many other reasons)… I didn’t feel bad about dating so soon after breaking up that very serious relationship, because it felt so right and I knew if I didn’t go for it, I’d pass up on someone very special. Plus, the breakup was inevitable and I had been gathering strength an resources for almost a year before I actually left. Meeting Darling Husband just gave me what I needed to make it final.

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

so glad for you!!

I was married b4 and for about the last 4 years of it, i hated him, litterally, he was verbally and emotionally abusive the whole relationship…we started dating in our teens and got married and had kids, but i started to think constantly about how wrong it was to be with him.  He had no respect for me and did all kinds of nasty things. 

fast forward to aug 2007, he called me at work and was bitching at me for something, and something in me just snapped, i told him i was done, didn’t love him and was leaving him.  anyway, it was a rough road to travel, but the best part of it all was a guy i worked with who really was just a friend, got wind of what the ex was doing and stepped up to be my “protector”  he messaged me to make sure i was ok, and if i didn’t show up for work, he would steal my number from the office and call me to make sure i wasn’t hurt…  well needless to say, two weeks later we went out on a date, and have been together ever since.. we are getting married in less than 6 months and i KNOW he is the ONE!  never disrespects me, never calls me names, builds me up instead of tearing me down, and loves me to the end of the earth.  He is the greatest guy a girl could ask for.  He loves my kids as if they were his own and is a much better father figure that their own father is…  good things happens when u least expect it to.  but it happened when i needed it most.  I came to learn what a relationship is supposed to be like, not anything like what I had.

the moment he held me in his arms, i knew he was the right one and i am so blessed that i am marrying him!

I am truly a sucker for a happy ending, so enjoy life as it is wayyy tooo short!

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@CaliBride92:  @mommytobee:  Omg…my story is so similar to yours, I can totally relate!  Mine was 6 years too XD and we weren’t engaged but I thought I was going to marry him.  We broke up because I fell out of love after being told the same empty promises for too long, not long after my fiance started chatting me up and even though I resisted since I didn’t want a relationship just then, he was gentle and kind and didn’t give up on me!  He is the greatest man ever and I didn’t really realise how miserable I was until I met someone that was actually good to me.  Sometimes things just happen at the right times!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I haved a friend who called off her engagement 2 weeks before she met her now husband. They fell in love instantly as well too and were married shortly after a year they met!

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Yay for happy endings!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I met my current Fiance while I was engaged to my ex… The wedding was still over a year away and we hadn’t really planned anything yet, but meeting Fiance made me realize that there were better people out there and I deserved better.

After letting my relationship unravel for seven months I decided to finally leave, and I got together with Fiance.  A year and a half later we were engaged, and here almost 3 years into our relationship we are both extremely happy and getting married in a couple months! 🙂

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@mommytobee:  Nearly my story too!

I didn’t meet my Fiance by accident though. I was in a nearly 4-year cohabiting relationship when my ex and I broke up. I was on the “waiting” boards here actually, but it didn’t pan out. I didn’t think getting engaged would’ve been a hard thing to do if the guy was head-over-heels over you. Problem was; he wasn’t. In fact, I was convinced that he hated me. He betrayed and abused my trust quite a bit. In the end I felt like I was making excuses for him when he wasn’t that great of a catch to begin with because a cheating SO can’t possibly be the best thing out there for me.

The night after that BU I signed on a dating website. I chatted with a few guys while I was moving out, keeping it light and positive. My Fiance knew the whole story and he wasn’t fazed by it. In fact he respected me more by being blatantly honest. We met after I settled in my new place. It went very well I’d say. We made some really awesome memories, travelled, and we got engaged that summer.

I’ve learned so much about myself in that process and to never settle for less. I’m so happy with my Fiance that if I were to illustrate I’d probably burst into a trillion pieces. I admire him so much and I’m sure now that this is who I’m meant for. We’ve both never been this happy in our lives before. It’s great!

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Not quite the same but kind of similar… I was with a really nice guy when I met FH. My ex, call him J, was nice, really good to me, had a stable job, and we got along great. But after about 6 months of our relationship, I began losing feelings, and our relationship quickly became more like a friendship. I didn’t quite get it, but I realized he wasn’t the one. I stayed with him for the time being, thinking I may change my mind, because we had a great relationship.

My now FH walked in to the restaurant at the rehearsal dinner for someone’s wedding, and I knew instantly. I knew like KNEW that I had to be with that man. I ended things with J immediately; he wasn’t surprised, it was mutual.

Shortly thereafter, I began joking with some friends that “I had met my future husband” and was showing of pictures of us at the wedding we met at to EVERYONE I knew, mostly joking because I thought he was out of my league. I didn’t really pursue him at the time, but we began reconnecting and soon we were official…it was a magical beginning. We are now engaged and living together; and I couldn’t be happier. I have also reconnected with J, who has no hard feelings about our relationship, and we are friends now! I am so thankful I met Andy when I did. Of course, I wish I was single the moment I met him (I felt like I was mind cheating on J!), but it all worked out in the end.  Life is amazing, isn’t it?

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mommytobee:  Oh my goodness, I was reading your post and it could have been written by me. I left my ex after 6 years and about a week later I met my now Fiance and I couldn’t be happier 🙂

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I met my Darling Husband about 3 months after I ended a  6 year relationship.  I was in the same boat that you described.  I wasn’t in love with him, just comfortable.  We had lived together, built a life together, and that was the hardest part about it.  It was hard to leave, not because of the ex, but because of the life that I had with him.  The friends and parties were what I missed, not the person (there were other deeper issues, but not really relevant here).  Once I met Darling Husband, I knew I made the smartest decision I could ever have made.  DH and I created a new life together and I couldn’t be happier.  My ex is now making some other girl miserable and I’m soooo glad it isn’t me anymore.

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