(Closed) Ending My Engagement ….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You are making the right choice! I am glad you are strong enough to see it. We are all here for you. 🙂

Post # 18
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1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Hugs* Your making the right choice for yourself you do deserve happiness and I wish you the best of luck.

Post # 20
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4520 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

He seems so incredibly passive and detached. You are doing the right thing. You deserve warmth, passion, intimacy, all that you are lacking now. Yes, you could probably be “fine” with him, but if you want more than just passable, he’s not it

Post # 21
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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@reluctantbride9999:  

In addition to your list of his bad qualities, I would suggest making a list of every thoughtless or unkind thing he had said or done to you.  I found this exercise really helpful in the past.

You are absolutely doing the right thing.  If you start to feel wobbly, come here and post about it, we’ll help get you through it.  It seems there are always caring Bees around to listen and offer support.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@reluctantbride9999:  It really sounds like you’re doing the right thing! It’s not supposed to be this hard… If it was right he would not make you sad so often.

Be strong! By the sounds of things, I would say you are definitely that. Once your lives are untangled and you have some space, things will look brighter. Once I broke up with a guy (although we weren’t engaged) and was SO UPSET. Even though he was horrible! I cried all day, but the next morning when I woke up… I realized I didn’t have to deal with his shit that day. Or ever again. Then I was ecstatic.

Losing your dad so recently makes things harder. I’m very sorry to hear about it. No doubt he would cheer you on in this situation. 

Good luck girl! Just remember that this is going to be the best thing for your soon to be ex too. (Bad marriage would be bad for both of you, no?) It’ll make it easier to remember that.

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