(Closed) Ending phone calls with a "love you,bye"

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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263 posts
Helper bee

@mseagles: That’s how my family is, for the most part, and although I don’t love FI’s family nearly as much as I love my own, I do still love them, and I would feel comfortable saying it. But they don’t really talk that way, so it’s not something I have to worry about.  

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I only do it with two people: My father and my SO. I never do it with anyone else in my family and never have. It find it awkward saying it to other people for some reason, I just wasn’t raised saying it much at all other than to my father.

 

My SO’s mom once said “love you guys!” as we were leaving to go on vacation and I was like “………….you too?!” so awkwardly. It just doesn’t come natural cause I didn’t grow up saying it much. I always, however, say it to my SO.

Then there are some people I know who say it all the time, even to friends. I guess it depends on how comfortable you feel throwing the word around and how you interpret it/grew up saying it? Who knows!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d have to learn to love them first. If I didn’t know them very well and they just laid it on me, I’d feel weird and I would have to mumble something nice, but not as intimate in return…

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Yup I do this with my sister and parents, and with FI’s mom too.  (She is the most wonderful lady EVER and I love her with all my heart.)  I don’t really talk to his dad or siblings on the phone ever.

I bet if you “practice” with your guy’s family, it’ll start to come more easily.  It really is nice and freeing to tell people you love, that you love them 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mseagles:  In my family we say SLB, which means “see ya, love ya, bye!” so I’m not used to saying “love you, bye” but I think I could get used to it easy enough.

Post # 8
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2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I rarely end conversations this way. Sometimes with my SO, but not very often. The only time this happens with other family memebers is if they’re out of town or something.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

I say that to my family, close friends… I’m sure if SO & I spoke on the phone we would say it too. (We’re more of a texting/face to face couple.) Poor SO had to get used to my overly affectionate family. They are BIG huggers. He kept trying to shake hands with people and they just laughed and grabbed him. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My family hardly ever said “I love you” to one another. It was sort of just implied. FIs family says it if you leave the room to go upstairs!! (ok, not really, but they say it ALL THE TIME!)

I sort of adopted it from them. I like the idea of saying “I love you” when hanging up from a phone call or when leaving the house. So Fiance and I say it all the time. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My family is very vocal in the love department so we always say it to each other, on the phone and in person, Fiance family not so much i don’t think I’ve ever said it to his mum even tho i do.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mseagles:  I never tell my parents, friendss, or anyone in my family that I love them. Never something we said growing up, don’t do it now either. I really only use the L word with my FH and never when anyone can hear.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@mseagles:  No, we never did it. My family is European/English.. you know, stiff upper lip lol. We never said that sorta sappy stuff. More actions than words. To this day I am a bit uncomfortable saying “I love you”, but I think that’s just a cultural thing. I sometimes say it and I feel it has more meaning when it’s not said 50x a day without even thinking about it. With that said, we all have our own habits so it’s not like I fault anyone who does this!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I say it all the time! I was raised to say it a lot, because it’s sweet.  I say it to my friends because I really do love them.  My friends are few, but super special to me.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m a weird person and dont like saying I love you to family. Especially not on the phone. I’m a bad person, but I think in the 2 years that me and Fiance have been together, I’ve told him I love him more than I’ve ever told anyone in my family. =/

Post # 16
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4868 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My parents don’t do it, so I didn’t grow up around it. I went to a tiny high school, and we were very much like a family. I did and still do say it to friends from that school. FH and I do it now, probably 99% of the time. 

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