(Closed) Ending phone calls with a "love you,bye"

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I only say it to my husband. My parents never did it, so I for some reason don’t say “love you” to them over the phone! 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I go through this with my mother, she insists on saying I love you after every conversation. I alwas feel incredibly awkward while waits for me to repeat it back to her and I rarely ever do. I Actually have conversations with myself after-the-fact feeling like a horrible daughter for not being able to say it after every single casual Conversation. I’m glad to know that there are other people out there who feel the same way about this. It’s seriously a personal dilemma LOL

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I say it to my Fiance, my parents, my grandparents… and that’s it. Anyone else and it’s immensely weird. Like PP’s have said, my FI’s mom has said it to us, and he replies in kind- and I feel like I’m just left there hanging. It’s always an akward “you too…”. I think it will be many years (if ever) that I say I love you to any of FI’s family.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Always say it. My parents, siblings, aunts, uncles etc always end our conversations this way. We’re loving people. Example talked to my sister 4x today (shes in a panic her wedding is saturday!!) at the end of each talk she says “love you bye” i replied with “love you too”. Fi family is not lovey or really super close at all. They hardly ever tell each other anything related to love. 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@chilecorona:  Me too!  I feel like things happen all the time, so its best to tell people how you feel all the time!  I tell my SO all the time, and my parents and sister every time we talk.  I say it to a couple of my best friends.  Haven’t gotten to the point of saying it to his family yet, though.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I grew up with a mother who told me she loved me and my siblings nonstop. At the end of phone calls, when we were leaving for school, etc. and if we were bratty teenagers and didn’t say it back she’d freak out.  It’s a little morbid, but I think she wanted to make sure it was the last thing she said god for something bad happened.  Now, my whole family says it before hanging up and when we are leaving each other after holidays and stuff.  I never knew this wasn’t really normal until highnschool, when I saw how differently my friends interacted with their families.

Post # 23
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Busy bee

@mseagles:  I do it to my Fiance, but family feels weird because we were brought up with some tough love.

 

though it became a habit that I have to becareful when I hang up the phone with my boss or clients that I don’t say love you bye lol

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I say it to my fiance, my parents, and my sister. It’s sort of become habit for us, I think. I don’t know when it started.

My sister and I had a ritual for saying goodnight when we were young. We had to say goodnight, I love you, sweet dreams – in that exact order – every night, haha.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We do this, but it is not a given that it will happen every conversation, especially if we have already spoken that day. My Dad makes me laugh at the end of conversations he says it so quickly almost like he wants to say it but he’s embarassed and wants to get it out of the way like “okloveyoumissyoubye”. Haha.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We definitely do not do this! I think it really cheapens it. We talked about it early on and luckily we feel the same – we only really say “I love you” when we’re really actually feeling that way. Of course I love him every day, but we really only say it every once in a while, because we say it with all our actions in between. There are some occasions when we say it in person when leaving the house, or something similar, but I still want to swoon when he says it to me, and making it less frequent definitely helps us achieve this. I know I’ve done something awesome when he tells me he loves me 🙂

I do always say it to my parents, though, but I feel like that kind of love is different. 

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We don’t do this all the time…..I grew up in a family where we didn’t say it with every single phone call just every once in a while. When I actually dated my ex-bf we said it all the time….after every phone after we kissed goodnight but with FH he actually doesn’t like to say it all the time. He always said that saying it all the time kind of cheapens the meaning so we say it every once in a while. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I do it with my boyfriend and parents. You never know what might happen tomorrow. It’s just what we do, even if we’re talking at work:)

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The only person I ever say “I love you” to, anywhere, is my fiancé – unless it’s a friend who is doing something silly and Ill say “I love you and all but…”

As a family, we’ve never said “I love you”, we aren’t like that. We don’t even hug – unlesaren’t havent seen each other in a long time! We do all love each other, we just show it rather than saying it. 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@AllieBee12:  what a coincidence, my family doesn’t abbreviate but we always say “love you, see you, bye.”  but it really turns into something more like “loveyaseeyabye” haha.  

 

 

 

To answer the original question, I pretty much say love you, bye to every famliy member including my grandparents, aunts, and FI’s family.  I was raised saying I love you to everyone because my dad always told my brother and I to never go to bed without saying I love you or hanging up without saying it because you don’t know if you’ll ever have the chance to say it again. 

 

Post # 31
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

“Love You, Bye”

In my life is only reserved for immediate family members… Parents, Kids & Mr TTR.  The folks in life I love unconditionally !!  The people who are so important that I never want to wake up one day and realize I didn’t tell em I loved them often enough (or not the last time I talked to em)

Same reason, I kiss & hug ’em adieu when I see them in person, and why I sign-off my emails to them with Love & Kisses.

Hope this helps,

 

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