(Closed) Ending phone calls with a "love you,bye"

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@everyheart:   my mum and I always said ‘goodnight, sweet dreams, I love you’ in that order every night!  That was every night until I moved out at 24! 

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@mseagles:  I say this to my mom & husband… because I love them, not out of routine.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee

I say it to my Fiance and some of my super close friends. I have said it to my Dad a few times but only because he initiated it first because out family has never been super open with I love you emotions..we just know it and dont say it much

Post # 35
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My mom grew up in a house where only her dad told her she was pretty/smart or loved.  My Dad’s mom said she loved them to girls, she only had boys.  So my parents made above and beyond effort to say I love you.   So we are all pretty mushy with each other, siblings/in laws/nieces/nephews cousins most aunts and uncles.  The only people I never said I love you to were my mother’s mother or her sibling & his family. They are asses tho. 

 

I’ve even been known to say it on the phone at work to people I talk to alot.  AWKWARD 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

With my Fiance yes.  Always.  Even if we have a super huge argument on the phone we say it.  He is a firefighter and you just never know.  And even if I dislike him in that moment, I still love him with all my heart.  He also tells his sister and parents I love you every time he talks to them.  Yeah.  I haven’t gotten there yet.  I tell my aunt I love you but thats about it.  I can remember my dad saying it once to me.  Once.  In my whole life.  It was while I was pregnant with my first son and my health and his were going down hill.  Quickly.  I can never, ever remember my mom saying it.  Ever.  Never.  Maybe thats why I no longer talk to them ? LOL  I LOVE LOVE LOVE my Future In-Laws and look up to them as my parental figures, along with my 3 other aunts (2 of them no longer talk to my mother either.  They are her sisters)  

I tell my sons (8 & 9) and Fstepson (9) every chance I get, and I love that they reciprocate it.  Randomly too. 

 

Post # 37
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have the habit of throwing the word love around pretty casually.  I say it to my parents, Future Mother-In-Law, my Fiance, some close friends.

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@mseagles:  i probably wouldn’t say such a thing to my in-laws.  my parents are a bit uptight and my family was never one to part with an “i love you.”  displays of affection are simply quite awkward.  it’s something that i plan to overcompensate with when it comes to my own kids.

 

That being said I don’t think there’s any reason a more affectionate family should have a problem with someone who is less comfortable with that sort of thing.  different strokes for different folks.  my future in-laws aren’t a lot more lovey dovey than my own parents, so it’s never been an issue for me, but i don’t think it’s reasonable to feel like you’re offending someone just because you aren’t asserting you love them often enough.  unless maybe it’s your SO.

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I say this to DH, my parents, siblings and my sister in laws. Occasionally I’ll be on the phone with my grandma and an uncle and they’ll initiate so I’ll say it back. I really do love everyone I say it to so it’s not anything new to me. I’m pretty darn close with my sister-in-laws so we always tell each other we love each other. That’s about as long as my list goes.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I say it to my fiance, and sometimes to my parents or my grandma if she says it first, I will say it back.

My Future Mother-In-Law always says “love you guys” when we leave. I never know what to say because I find it weird to say “love you too” to her. My fiance ALWAYS says love you to his parents on the phone. It is kind of sweet.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

No… we don’t really. I am not really that close with my family.

I tell my husband this most of the time.  

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I come from a very non-touchy-feely family who primarily communicates with each other through emails and passive aggressive notes. I learned from an early age not to share my feelings openly with my parents, and when it became clear that I was struggling emotionally in high school, my parents’ reaction was to get me a therapist so they didn’t have to talk about it with me. Not that I have a rough childhood, but all of this is to say that I still find it very difficult to say something as simple as “I love you” to my family members.

 

One of the things I love about DH and his family is that my relationship with them was always different and very open. I have learned to open up to DH and always tell him I love him, even though I still struggle with open communication sometimes. So on the phone or in person, I will always say I love you before I leave and he says it back before we say goodbye. 

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have 2 brothers and 3 sisters and we always say “I love you” before we hang up the phone. Same with my parents. We’ve always just been a very affectionate family. My Husband’s family isn’t like this at all! It was weird at first when my parents would say “I love you” to DH because he wasn’t even used to his own parents saying it (They are very loving people, just not super affectionate) 

DH says “I love you” now to my parents and my youngest sister when we leave their house. He’s also started saying it to his parents and grandparents and they’ve started to say it more often too. It makes me happy that he feels comfortable saying it. We’ve decided that we want to raise our kids in a house where “I love you’s” and hugs and kisses are standard lol. 

Post # 44
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I say it to DH and my mommy <3

My dad just isn’t an I love you kind of guy. He will say it during special moments, like my wedding, but that is about it. Any other time I would have to say it first in order to get a mumbled love you out of him.

Mother-In-Law and DH’s grandma say it a lot, and I will say it back, but I won’t tell them first. It just isn’t completely comfortable.

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I only do this with my mom, but this started when I went away to college, it never ever happened before that so the first time it happened I was a little surprised and said….”okkkkk byeee??”   I never say I love you, bye when I’m on the phone with the Fiance.  I find it annoying when people say it 100 times everytime.  That phrase should be reserved for when you are REALLY feeling like you love them at that moment, in my opinion

Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I only do the “love you, bye!” with my family (sisters, Dad, and DD–I don’t have contact with my Mum) and DH… and DH will say it to his Mum from time-to-time, but not always. I’ve been tempted to say it to Mother-In-Law when I talk to her her, as well, but our chats are rare, and I don’t want it to be awkward, lol.

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