Post # 1
It seems like people would not attend a wedding if the reception ends at 8 or 9pm. I’ve read that somewhere (not sure if it’s here on the Bee or another wedding message board) from so many brides. I understand people love to party but there’s a few brides who want to end it early. What if they’re having a church wedding early? What if they want to save money by having an afternoon or early evening wedding? What if the venue needs to shut down at 10pm because of the noise? What if there’s older guests or kids who usually go to bed early? It seems like people lose sight of what’s important sometimes. You should celebrate whenever you like, even if the reception ends at 8pm.
Sorry about the rant but I needed to say something about it.
Post # 3
I’ve never actually received an invitation that indicated an end time, so it would never dissaude me from attending a wedding. But I guess if I knew how short a wedding was going to be I would consider how far it was and how close I was to the bride and groom.
Ie, we were invited to a semi-elopement in Maui. The originally only wanted the guests to attend the ceremony, then they were having their own dinner alone and “not telling anybody where they’re staying the rest of the trip”. That seemed kind of silly to go all that way for 15 minutes.
Post # 4
@BeeRod527: I think there’s a difference between “I would not enjoy it so much” and “I would not attend”. A while ago there was a poll on opinion on a non dancing wedding (not the same issue, but similar). Only about 5% said they wouldn’t attend. It’s disappointing that it’s even 5%, but at least the number’s low.
Personally I think it’s shallow to decline any wedding invite just because you don’t think it’ll be enough fun. If you care about them and can afford it, attend. If you don’t care that much about them and/or can’t afford it, don’t attend.
Post # 5
@paula1248: Well if you know the reception starts at 4pm, then people should put their big boy/big girl pants on and have a great time, regardless of the end time. But it is very petty for people to decline because the reception doesn’t end after 12am.
When my cousin got married, the reception ended at 7pm. I did not leave the place disappointed because we had a great time.
Post # 6
I have also never received an invitation with an end time. I stay either as long as other people I know stay, or until I’m tried and ready to go home. My reception ended around 10:30, because people were starting to leave and I was tired! I never heard any complaints from any of the guests about the time ending – I think it lasted just the right amount of time.
Post # 7
We’re planning on being done with our reception by 10 (cocktail hour starting at 6). My aunt was surprised saying that it doesn’t leave any time for dancing. FI and I aren’t much partiers, so the 10pm end time is perfect for us. Would it be awkward to just have the DJ announce the last dance around 9:50? What else do we need to do?