Ending up with a Dress Completely Different that what you had in mind?! Anyone

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Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Haha been there πŸ™‚ My change wasn’t DRASTIC but it was certainly not what I was expecting. 

I knew I wanted an all-lace dress with a Queen Anne neckline and a sheer lace back, but I was definitely planning on ballgown or a-line. Walked out with all of that, but in a mermaid dress πŸ™‚ I was stunned at how pretty the mermaid was on my figure! 

Being very short, ballgowns and A-lines made me look as tiny as a child, and actually made me look bigger than I am, which I wasn’t a fan of! I was just surprised that was the case lol

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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emily20 :  Yes! Definitely! Make sure you bring some people with you, because I’ve found outside perspectives are helpful. It’s really easy to get tunnel vision and overwhelmed when you’re surrounded by so many gowns, and an entourage will help keep you grounded πŸ™‚ 

Good luck! 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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emily20 :  I ended up with a dress that was pretty different from what I had in mind. 

I swore up and down I wouldn’t go strapless, so of course that’s what I ended up with. I was sure I’d go with a sheath, but ended up in a dropped waist mermaid. I wanted something with lace, ended up without any. I wanted something with a lot of back detail to cover my tattoos, but my gown is low in the back and has no embellishment.

All that being said, it’s the only dress out of the 20-25 I tried on that looked and felt good. I think trying on a lot of different styles is really helpful. You can’t really know how something is going to look on you until you see it in person. 

Don’t narrow your choices down too much a first. Let your consultant suggest a dress or two for you. They have done it enough that they’re pretty good at eyeballing a body and knowing what will flatter it the most. 

Just have fun, keep an open mind, and don’t be afraid to try something out of your comfort zone. 

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Yeah. Been there. I lovelove love (!!) ballgowns and romantic , big,   Poofy things – the more fabric, the better- 

but wearing those kind of things, I look like an Irish dirigible. 

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so I’m going with a detachable overskirt w/ mermaid style for one, and for the other, a very form-fitting bodice and silk skirt. I found what I loved about the big dresses, and found a compromise that worked for my body type. πŸ™‚ 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I sure did! I was sure I didn’t want any lace! From left to right: the kind of dress I thought I wanted before I tried any on, the kind I thought I’d end up with after trying on different shapes, and the one I ended up with! 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2019

This happened to me too. Was so set on getting a loose and flowy tulle dress for my summer wedding, ended up with a lace sheath dress with a chapel train. Never imagined myself in one but it looks great so no regrets!

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Me! I always knew I wanted a pure white dress, something intricate with lots of beading and poofy tulle. I had a bunch of pictures saved from different designers that I was so excited to try on. But, when I got to the store, I put on the same dress I’d been eyeing and I HATED it. The beading was so uncomfortable, the tulle made me think of prom, and the bright white felt like a neon sign. I tried a few more on that I’d saved from online, but nothing was what I wanted. I ended up in actual tears in the bridal salon because I was so ready to give up. My consultant decided to switch gears and brought out a very simple mikado gown with no beading, and I felt so much more like myself! It was beautiful, and I loved the way it made me feel. So, I started searching for simple dresses and I ended up with my Stella York, an ivory ball gown with a lace bodice, mikado skirt, and cathedral train. It’s so far from what I thought I wanted!

The most important thing is that you love it on you, not in pictures. You have to go try on lots of different things and see what makes you feel your best! You should try the Hayley Paige you found and some of the ones you’ve been looking at before, that way you can compare and see what you like best!

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I knew I wanted something fitted, but didn’t have any particular style outside of that picked. What I did NOT want was strapless as I am very small chested and always felt that it is the most “popular” neckline. What do ya know, mine ended up being a strapless. I’m having straps added as detachable, but doubt I’ll wear them outside of possibly dancing. You always hear not to say never and it’s teallt true lol. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

Yes!! I was always convinced I would end up with an all lace, long sleeve backless sheath dress, but I ended up with a sparkly beaded lazaro a-line gown with absolutely no lace.  I did still love the lace ones I tried on, I just liked the one I chose better than all those ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2020 - City, State

Yes! I initally wanted a mermaid/ trumpet style gown and tried a few at the dress boutique and said for fun, I want to try on a ball gown! I absolutely loved it, i tried on 2 other ball gowns and ended up purchasing the first one i tried on rigth there on the spot. I felt like a princess, as cliche as that sounds. the dress is so beautiful and i feel so pretty we are changing our wedding from elopement to formal ceremony because I want to be admired by as many people as possible. LOL

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

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emily20 :  I was totally certain I wanted a blingy ballgown and had thought I had already picked my dress online when I went shopping. I was also totaly adamant I wanted not a single stitch of lace anywhere on my dress. 

While I LOVED the dress I found online when I tried it on, my mother absolutely hated it and begged me to keep looking. So I did just to appease her and I am so glad I did. I ended up finding my dream dress whiel shopping all alone.

I still ended up with a big sparkly ballgown like I thought I wanted, but it has lace all over it! I’m so glad I was open to tryign diffierent styles and types – otherwise I never would have found my dream dress!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

Can we have a “what I thought I would ahve SPENT” thread?? Bahaha. I am a super thrifter and was convinced I could find my dream dress for under $300. Upon not finding a gown I loved for months, I called up my best friend/bridesmaid and we went to BHLDN. $1400 later, I am happy as a…well, bride. πŸ™‚ 

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