- 2 years ago
- Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!
I don’t have photos at the moment but i had my heart set on a fit and flare style, something lace and clingy with a beautiful train. Well, i tried it on and i looked like an ironing board. It just did nothing at all for me, because i have no waist it just made me look so odd! Such a shame because i love that style but its just life!
I ended up with a cute a-line style that makes me look like i do have a waist! Its strapless and poofy and all the things i never wanted haha.
I thought I’d have an Aline or drop waist chiffon and lace strapless dress with a corset back to hold in the HH cups! I ended up with this instead.
I WANTED a 50s style tea dress and ended up with a Grecian style full-length dress.
Wanted an embroidered tulle ballgown and no veil, ended up with a satin mermaid with minimal embellishments and a dramatic veil 🤣
I just went dress shopping this past weekend. I went to Dreamers and Lovers in LA and I ended up falling in love with the one dress that I was absolutely certain I would not like based on pics online (The Valentina in case anyone is interested).
The dress that I thought was “the one” looked terrible on me as did several other dresses I loved from pictures on the website. Luckily, I was open to trying any and all dresses just to be certain and my mom picked out the one for me.
Definitely try on every silhouette to make sure you find the right shape for your body. I actually ended up picking the second dress I tried on, but tried several more after and went to one other designer for peace of mind.
I worked at a bridal shop a few years ago and had a dress picked out(well before husband and I wanted to get married lol) when I went to actually get one the ones I liked were full 180. I liked v neck, loose skirt strappy top, chiffon and sequined. I got a swiss dot sweetheart strapless. Still loose skirt but 0% like what I had in mind.
What I thought I wanted
What I got
After alterations and dye job
Definitely. I thought I wanted a tea length simple dress for my enlopement wedding. I ended up with a full length dress.
idontevenknow : I have a FANTASTIC seamstress in Dallas, she drafted another layer of skirt out of scarf weight silk so she wouldnt ruin the dress itself and so she could practice the dying process and not add bulk or weight to my dress when she was happy and sewed it in. It turned out very different than I had in mind, I was thinking tie dye ombre, but I love it more than I could have imagined
I thought for sure I would end up something with a whole bunch of detail, maybe even lace, but my dress has no beading or lace! It is an A-line, as expected, but definitely a lot simpler than I was imagining!
Me! I went in thinking I wanted something simple, anything but a ballgown, however, I knew I didn’t want white. I asked about Silver and they said the only thing that they had that came in silver was a strappless ballgown. Well, I put that baby on and had “the moment” and that’s what I ended up with.
I really wanted long lace sleeves and I hated how hot and odd they were. There were lots of things I thought I wanted and did not like in person. But I knew I wanted lace and I definitely only felt like a bride in lace dresses when trying them on. Everyone gets wrapped up in finding there perfect wedding dress before they go shopping and I think this is a mistake. Take notes what you like and when you go try on dresses keep an open mind a picture of a dress may see blah but in person you could love it.
I went in with a very specific idea in mind that was largely based on what I knew would look good on me, so it was unlikely I was going to end up in something radically different. But even given my strong preferences, the dress I chose was still not one I had considered based on photos online.
For years I was convinced I was going to go with a lace sheath with a high neckline, cap sleeves, and little to no train. Specifically this dress from Allure:
When I went shopping, I tried on a few high neck lace dresses, and most of the lace patterns just didn’t look bold or special enough in person. So I started focusing more on getting the fit and silhouette I wanted. The closest match to my vision was Sottero and Midgley’s Grady, which both my mom and I really liked on me, despite it having beading instead of lace:
I could have walked away with the Grady and I would have been happy, but there was still something slightly underwhelming for me. Yes it was one of the dresses I had asked for and it did suit my figure as expected, but it was just too obvious of a choice for me. It would have been the safe choice. It kind of felt like buying a dress you already own in a different color because you know it will fit.
The last dress I tried on was Eddy K’s Sydney, which was the one the consultant had pulled first for me. I had seen photos of this dress online, and while I remembered liking the lace pattern, I thought the cut wasn’t for me. I had told the consultant I didn’t want a V-neck, but I decided I needed to at least try it on to rule it out.
When I tried it on and showed my mom though, it was the first time the both of us really got excited. The lace appliques really popped and added the texture I was looking for. The neckline and back were lower than I would have chosen for myself, but I think the fact that it was a bold and unexpected choice made it feel more special. And I was totally sold on the train, even though I had thought I didn’t want to deal with one.
I’ll need to get the straps tightened to pull the cups up a bit, but beyond that I’m thrilled about the fit on me.
So in my experience, even if you go in with specific dresses in mind, it’s a good idea to give the consultant a few features you like and from there try their suggestions as well. I had told my consultant I was interested in bold lace, high necklines, and cap sleeves. She said she pulled the Sydney because it was the one that immediately came to mind when I said bold lace, and it turned out to be just what I really wanted despite not having the other features.
I never appreciated strapless dresses because they seemed so predictable. I dreamed of sleeves and illusion necklines… I ended up with a freaking strapless sweetheart ball gown lol