- 6 years ago
Hi Ladies in waiting,
I’m new to the hive, but I’ve been lurking forever. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years, he’s 27 and I’m 23. We met in college and we knew early on we are the “one” for each other. We have discussed marriage and we both agree that this is it, we are going to marry each other.
We currently live together, renting his mother’s guest house because I am in graduate school and unable to work. He works for her, she has a three-generation family business. He makes decent money, but he would like to make more. He has excellent job stability since his mother would never fire him. I get along wonderfully with his family, and he gets along great with mine.
He doesn’t want to get married until I’m done with grad school, whihc I agree with, because it would not be an ideal time to plan a wedding. Also, we need really awesome health insurance because he has an autoimmune disorder and I have had a brain tumor that could not be fully removed, so it needs to be monitored. (It is benign though!!)
However, I did tell him around 6 months to a year into the relationship that I would like to be engaged around the two-year mark. I don’t want to end up dating someone for 8 years and never get engaged. I don’t mean that offensively, I know many ladies have been waiting longer, but I really want to get married instead of cohabitaing.
When it came time for me to apply to graduate schools last fall, I applied to all the schools around my house and his. I was accepted to one of my top choices and it meant I had to live in his area because the commute is too far. So now we live together…which I told him I also did not want to live together until I’m engaged.
So now I’m waiting….endlessly…
I know we had a conversation about when we would get married, but last night I almost lost it. We went out to dinner with my friends and two are married and pregnant, one is engaged, one just got engaged before starting the master’s program I am in, and one just got married.
I’m so jealous!! It made me very depressed, and when we left dinner, I was feeling bitter and resenting my boyfriend. I started getting very snippy with him and being cold to him. I know I won’t be getting engaged for AT least two years, but I’m starting to feel resentment as I already know my boyfriend has a 1.5 carat diamond, he just needs to get a setting.
I know this is it, we have had the marriage conversation, we live together, I just want a formal commitment already!!!
Ugh, anyone else feel this way?