- 4 months ago
Oh jeez I hope I don’t make this too long.
I have questions for the unfortunate ladies who have endometriosis. I think somethings wrong with me, I have for a while. And the last 3 times I’ve spoken to different gynecologists, I was disregarded or made to feel like I’m fine. But I know in my gut that somethings wrong. I really really want babies! Like so bad. All of my friends have kids now, and I’ve quietly kept my infertility issues private. I’m 25 and started ttc with my ex around 20 (I know! Way too young, but I have always had bad baby fever). Anyways, long story short we tried, we relaxed, we came to a point where if it happens it happens. It didn’t. We split up and he now has a beautiful little girl with his current girlfriend. I’m in an amazing relationship right now, I’ve spoken to him about the possibility of something being wrong and we’re at the point in our relationship that we’re ready. And I feel like career wise, financially, and age wise, I’m actually really ready. So we started trying in December of 2019, and again nothing happened. I’ve tracked my periods religiously, I haven’t gotten around to opks or temping yet because my boyfriend said let’s just try having fun and not get too stressed about it, and after a year if that doesn’t work, let’s jump in all the way. Every month I think this is it! This is the month! But af shows her ugly face. And it’s such a huge let down. Since I’ve been tracking I’ve noticed my cycles are all over the place, I could have a 30 day cycle one month, and a 45 day cycle the next month, I never have a consistent cycle. My cramps are delbiliting. I’m writing this right now because I had to leave work they were so intense. Otc medicine does nothing when they’re full on raging. Heating pads don’t work, hot baths don’t work. It’s just utter misery for the first day. Some months the cramps will last longer, some months it’s just the one day of severe cramping. Sorry tmi, but I also have painful bm’s on my period as well. I’m a heavy bleeder the first 3 days, and then it usually tapers off. Some months ill bleed for 9 days and other months I’ve bled as short as 3 days. I get the egg white discharge at different times of the month so I don’t think I ovulate the same day each month. But who knows I guess I might not even be ovulating, because maybe my tubes are blocked. That’s why I tried to go to a gyno about it, and they just try to throw bc at me or tell me it’s my hormones even though my hormones come back normal from the bloodwork. I’ve already done bc and my cycles didn’t change. And my most recent visit, I had no cysts. So pcos has been ruled out. The pain wasn’t as bad on bc, but they were as soon as I got off them. And that didn’t fix my infertility issue. So I guess what I’m trying to ask is-
What were your symptoms that led you to your diagnosis?
How bad are your cramps?
How heavy is your bleeding?
Were you able to conceive naturally?
When did a doctor take your pain seriously enough to start looking into the possibility of endo?
Its so hard trying to find information on endometriosis, everyone is different with their symptoms. I just wish a doctor would take it more seriously with me, because the crippling pain I am in from pms and bfns is tearing me up. Sorry if I sound ridiculous lol, I am currently pmsing and in the dumps from getting my period. And who knows maybe I don’t have endometriosis, but every time I surf on dr google, it always brings me to endo. And the whole infertility thing is a pretty big sign I think. 5 entire years of bd’ing, I’ve had to have done it on an ovulation day ya know?