- 3 weeks ago
- Wedding: November 2010
It seems that we have all experienced energy vampires. They can be romantic partners, family members, friends, coworkers, casual acquaintances, or complete strangers, including on the internet. Depending on our own levels of sensitivity, some of us are EV magnets. Crowds can be nightmarish for sensitive people.
A couple of things I have found surprising are that we are all EVs at some times in our lives. And, I had no understanding of how much physical illness an EV can cause a victim.
EVs can also be operating entirely unconsciously.
This is something I am really grappling with right now; it’s my Dark Night of the Soul (one of many over a lifetime). The veil just abruptly lifted and I was hit hard with the recognition that a close friend whom I have known for many years is likely a vampire.
The most reliable indicators will be your own feelings, physical and emotional. I gradually became aware of this person’s energy being what I would call “disruptive”. I hesitated to label it bad or negative, just jarring. And the overall decibel level goes up. It’s not pleasant.
I have experienced this kind of energy before, many years ago, even stronger, and it was very uncomfortable. It once pushed me all the way into a brief dissociation. But, in the interest of full disclosure, I am a Masster Dissociator.
This person is quiet and reserved, not a Cluster B (low/no conscience personality disorders per DSM V). Not a great communicator; this person puts a low value on personal relationships. However, they do latch on in codependent ways. The suspected EV is quite passive and flat in affect. Guilt and fear are their drivers. There is a distinct lack of empathy, not so much in the Cluster B sense as in a lack of understanding of emotions.
Claims to be very frugal, to the point of skimping on proper self care, eg going to the dentist. Yet, money always slips away; like they’re trying to hold onto sand too hard. And stingy in most ways. I had to introduce this individual to the concept of charitable giving. Whatever you’re given will be doled out in small amounts.
This is also a person who will run to the store or pharmacy for you. But, never with a pleasant attitude about it.
Absolutely zero self awareness and the most faulty intuition I have ever seen.
Why has it taken so long for me to even begin to see any of this? My stuff.
Recently, I have actually fallen asleep in this person’s presence. Not polite, but, exhaustion just suddenly takes over, even if I had plenty of energy a few minutes earlier. And I have really been struggling with autoimmune disorders and headaches.
EVs can launch psychic attacks at us even when they are not physically present.
I am still reeling, and haven’t started working on dealing with this on a psychological level.
Those of you who have tangled with EVs, how did you handle it? With what results? Are you struggling with one or more right now?
Did you take it to the next level and do any spiritual work on it?
I found the linked article to be helpful in that it goes into research on the physical aspects of EV. The person I’m describing fits very well into the “Passive/Aggressive” category.