Post # 1
So the groom and I have been dating for 2 years. This weekend after a couple of under-my-breath comments about marriage, I asked him what his plan for us was, and IF he even had a plan. His response was yes, but he wanted to hear mine. I wasn’t going to pass on this oppertunity. I told him that if it was up to me, we would be getting married this summer, in my home town. His response-“Ok, let’s do it.”
Here is the issue…Am I engaged now? Can I make plans, put down deposits? Tell my family? I have said to him a few times, “Were you kidding me? It’s not funny.” His response is always “I love you, I want to marry you, of course I mean it.”
So am I engaged without a ring? Do I need a ring? Am I pathetic to accept without one?
Post # 3
You know, one of my best friends got engaged in almost exactly the same way. They were having a discussion about how she wanted kids in the near future and her boyfriend wanted to be married first, and by the end of the conversation they had agreed to get married next summer. She didn’t have a ring and spent the first week wondering if they were really engaged, but her fiance got her a ring a few months later and they started planning soon afterwards.
So unless your boyfriend is the type who likes elaborate practical jokes it sounds like congratulations are in order! Before you tell the world you might just wanna double check with him, like ‘I’m about to call my mum and tell her we’re getting married next summer, you ok with that?’.
I think the old fashioned way of proposing, man gets down on one knee and asks unsuspecting girl to marry him, is really out of date with the modern world. Getting married and joining your lives and assets is a huge step and something that should be decided together. It makes a lot more sense to discuss it together rather than one person sprining it as a surprise on the other! I mean, you’d discuss minor purchases like getting a new dog or a car so why not agree to get married as well…
The ring really isn’t important, the promise to marry each other is. And this way you can go ring shopping together, that will be a lot of fun and you’ll get some input in the ring you’ll be wearing for the rest of your life. I would have loved to go ring shopping with my man personally!
Post # 4
I didn’t have a ring when he asked me. My FH always said he would never get married again, but one night we were out at a ballroom dancing class. He had a few drinks, but not to many, and he just blurted it out. The next day I must have asked him 100 times if he meant it. I went to call my mom late that afternoon and gave him one more out, once the mom’s know, it’s a done deal.