Engaged @32; Feelings of older brides?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I got married at 31 just about 32… we got married in Sept and my bday is in Oct. I don’t think there is any set age people are supposed to be married! when it’s meant to be it’s meant to be! 

 

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

I got engaged last December 1st at 33 years old. In my experience, planning a 6-month wedding is a breeze when you just keep it simple. My biggest advice is to read A Practical Wedding and just stay focused on the two of you.

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I got married at 26 but we planned a wedding in 6 months and paid for everything ourselves. We had a sick grandma in the family and wanted her to be able to attend. Comparison is a thief of joy. 32 is not old to be getting married, at all. There are people of all ages getting married and paying 100% on their own. There are also people of all ages whose parents are paying for the wedding .There are people having $1,000 budget weddings and people having $100,000 extravagant weddings. Don’t compare yourself to the people around you. We planned in 6 months and spent $7k and I never felt bad about our wedding.

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2020

46 year old bride to be here and I feel like a kid again.  

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2021

I think the primary stresser you have is that you’re trying to plan in 6 months. It’s probably dependent on location, because in my area such a short planning time would be extremely stressful – everything gets booked up super early, and the less time you have the more expensive everything will be (the affordable nice places get snatched up early!). I would give yourself at least a year to properly save and plan. An extra six months won’t make a difference in the grand scheme of things and will help the process go a lot smoother. 

FWIW everyone I know in my city got married after 30. 

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

My second wedding happened in my 50s and I loved every minute of it. First wedding was the traditional wedding of about 100 people, church, reception, etc. The second wedding was on a beach with a ride on the beach after in a truck looking at wild horses. It was a small wedding with a dinner at a restaurant with close family and friends. I wore a pretty lacey dress but not a traditional gown. You can have a beautiful wedding without spending a lot of money and make the wedding your own. Do not go into debt to have a wedding!

Post # 37
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Busy bee

I’m 24 and engaged but i feel super young. Hearing 32 to me seems completely normal…I wouldnt think twice about it…Seems like an appropriate age to get married!

Try not to let it bother you:)

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2004

I was engaged for three months before getting married.  We were on a time crunch due to his lease coming up and we didn’t want to live together before getting married.  We found a all-inclusive venue my mother had heard about, it was a church and reception hall at the same location.  Went and viewed it and put down the deposit.  We got married on a Friday afternoon which was less cost wise.  When I met with their florist and cake maker and I said do what you think will be the most beautiful at the pre-set price and I let it go.  There was a buffet spread and servers included. I sent my best friend who was my maid of honor to a dress rental shop and told her to pick out what style she liked best – I went with her and let her know what color I felt was most flattering on her. I only had one other bridesmaid.  My wedding was beautiful, my experience was joyful, everyone we loved was in attendance.  My best friend got married one month later and planned everything herself and cried from stress and disappointment the morning of her wedding.  My other friend had a planning book that could have put her back out it was so large. She hauled it around for months longer than the marriage lasted.  Be kind to yourself.  If the wedding planning and cost is stressing you to the max realize you are allowing that.  Perhaps a courthouse wedding and a home reception would be lovely, that is what my parents did.  Or a destination wedding with only your dearest -three day weekend cruises can be very inexpensive.  Best of luck and congratulations on your engagement. 

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