Post # 17
Thanks, everyone, for your kinds words. Lucky for us we don’t have to deal with family pressures. It’s just difficult to realize that what you can actually afford is nothing like what you really want for your wedding.
Post # 18
@NJmeetsBX: Don’t get discouraged. WB is an incredible source for inspiration and creative ideas on how to get what you want without blowing your budget sky-high. There are so many ways to save without sacrificing your vision!! Just poke around and ask for help, and count on the collective experience of the bees to help you along.
Post # 19
I was the same way …. I thought our 25-30 K budget would be more than enough to cover what we wanted ….. no way, at least not for the unique loft spaces where you have to bring in everything and hire outside people AND use only a few select (read: expensive) caterers. Once we started over, we found an awesome restaurant in the city (unique and in the city were important to me since I have almost 80-90& out of town guests and didn’t know how they’d get to the suburbs other than renting a car), that was well within our price range. Before we went back to the drawing board, I too was considering eloping or just having people meet us at a bar because I didn’t want to do a sunday afternoon deal nor did I want to slash the guest list down so low it didn’t include the people i wanted.
Huge sigh of relief. Like may others said, once you tack down a venue, the rest is more fun and WAY less stressful. Once you start doing some nitty gritty research with prices, etc …. i bet you’ll find ways to do things similar to how you envisioned. And once you get a few “wins” under your belt (like finding a reasonably priced venue you can work with or a steal on a dress you love, etc), it gets easier to let go of the things you truly can’t afford or make work (for me it was live musicians for the ceremony and a big time exotic honeymoon … but that’s ok because I’m having a wedding in the city at a unique, non cookie cutter venue with awesome food, a great dj,etc).
I am someone who has NEVER dreamed about her wedding and approached this with a sense of dread. I can honestly say once you get one big item checked off your list the rest gets easier.
Good luck! Keep us updated on your progress
Post # 20
I hear ya! I’ve been engaged since March of last year and holy cow have I been through ups and downs! Luckily now that the date is finally within a reasonable time frame (a year out) and we’ve booked a venue, things are on the upswing and planning is fun again! Best of luck!
Post # 21
You’re not alone… I HATE wedding planning! I even made a post dedicated to it 🙂 But that’s ok I’m just making decisions really quickly. I’ll be done soon and then I can relax and have fun!
Post # 22
I FEEL THE SAME WAY!!! I’m so close to just saying F it – I’m eloping!
Post # 23
@NJmeetsBX:I feel you. I don’t have my ring yet but we have picked a location, planned a budget and guestlist. I saw a dress I like online yesterday, hopefully I could try that on, it fits and be done. I’m not even officially engaged and I am not excited. I doubt if I will be excited after the ring in a few weeks. We are thinking of a Destination Wedding wedding. I just want to show up and get married. You are not alone. I love my SO but spending 20k for one day seems like a job to me. Not exciting.