- 1 month ago
- Wedding: January 2005
FFS, why in the world would you want to be married to someone you practically have to drag down the aisle?
From your postings its sounds like you are playing a game. A dangerous one at that. You are forcing his hand, because clearly he doesnt want to be married. He is trying to placate you. Worse still you have two children in this mess who have no say whatsoever.
History and studies have shown over and over, that children who grow up in unhappy homes have issues that stay with them the rest of their lives. Whether you fight in front of them or not, kids know when parents arent happy. You are committing them to a lifetime of unhappiness.
I grew up in a home with two parents who refused to divorce because they wanted to stay together for us. I firmly believe it drove my father into an early grave. My mother was miserable and had multiple affairs.
You won the battle but ultimately your children will lose the war. You say you want to wait a bit for some security, well bee in this situation it never works. He may already resent you, you already resent him. You two may never come to a place where your life is really and truly happy, and once again your kids will be the ones who bear the brunt of your bad decisions.
Also two parents who amicably get along separately is better than two parents who live together in misery.