Post # 76
My SO has ADHD, some insecurity issues, etc, is not a cheater. I can already see your denial stage is menifesting with trying to make excuses for his behavior.
You really should have him staying on someone’s couch or getting a hotel room for at least a week so that you can have space to really see him for the person his ACTIONS have shown him to be, space to gain clarity and really decide what is best for YOUR future, not what’s best for HIM or for the relationship.
He has already thrown the relationship under the bus, you have no obligation to consider it. You need to consider yourSELF, and ONLY yourself right now.
Post # 77
leave. i know how heartbreaking and difficult it will be. but you need to leave. from an outsider looking in, this does not sound good. please leave 🙁 it may be difficult now but think how difficult it will be AFTER you’re married and this happens…..
Post # 78
Firstly, as someone who was abandonned and divorced soon afte rmarriage I can’t even express the amount of pain involved in divorce. It’s so much worse than a break up.
Secondly go to http://www.survivinginfidelity.com
Read a bit about what these people go through and since you have been cheated on I’m sure you can post there and get an account for support. He will only get worse but the website will show you ppls experiences and pain levels. Leave now before it’s too late.
Post # 79
It has been 5 days since I broke things off with him. He did not show any effort to change and stopped apologizing after only a couple days. He became defensive, cruel, and inconsiderate of my feelings trying to process all that he did. I know I did the right thing by leaving, but I’m still really struggling. I hurt all over and cannot believe the amount of lies and betrayal.. My life has changed in every way now. I am stuck in a town 2 and a half hours away from my family because of school, I am having to move into my friends’ living room because I can’t bear to be in the place we called ours and living alone there would be too expensive. I am sad all the time and don’t know how I’ll ever be able to trust again.
Post # 80
I am so sorry it came to this but I am so happy you left.
I know you will rebuild your life and find a man who will truly love you, you will be his one and only and will think the sun shines out your ass.
I also hope you can eventually move back home to your home town. Good luck bee, will keep an eye out for your updates.
You will be fine ❤
Post # 81
I’m sorry you’re hurting. I can’t imagine how tough it must be to go through this, but down the road, you’ll be so grateful you did. You saved yourself years of being with a jerk who was going to cheat on you. Now you’re free to find a guy who will be so dedicated to you that he won’t even notice other women.
Post # 82
I’m so sorry! But you made the right decision – you will find someone who will love you and treat you how you deserve to be treated. And who will be faithful to you!
Post # 83
I didn’t read any other responses, but I dated someone, off and on, for 2-3 years who did this. Each time I caught him he would beg, plead, cry, swear to God he would never do it again… Well I would forgive him, we’d get back together, and a few months down the road I would catch him again. He was pretty stupid because he kept getting caught, and I was pretty stupid because I kept taking him back. It made me paranoid and feel like I can’t trust any man. As hard as it is, if I could do it again, I would leave after the first time and not look back.
Post # 84
I’m afraid I’ll never be able to trust someone again. My ex before him also cheated, so when I got a feeling something was wrong, I would write it off as paranoia. I would ask him directly if he was being unloyal and he would give me the best lie ever.. he seemed so sincere and caring.
Are you able to trust again and how do you trust again?
Post # 85
It has been a slow process and I don’t trust blindly anymore. My Fiance is a good man, and he’s never given me reason to doubt him, but even so those thoughts do creep up once in a while. It’s gotten better though. I think that is something that will improve with time and with the right person.
Post # 86
You deserve someone who will be faithful to you for a lifetime. You did the right thing and you are so strong for doing what is right for you even though it hurts. One day you’ll be thanking yourself when you’re marrying a faithful man who would never even think to look at another woman besides you. Hugs!
Post # 87
Oh, sweetie. My ex did the same thing. He is now an ex for a reason!
Post # 88
It will be VERY hard to trust again… You will have to be honest about this with any guys you start dating seriously up front. Guys DO exist who will accept this about you and give you the transparency you will need to grow and heal. I’m so glad you found the strength to leave him even though it’s so painful.