Post # 1
Please help me if there arbrides girls out there that were engaged and then he called it off. I need to talk to a girl who’s going or who has gone through what I am right now. I feel lost, alone and unwanted and like I have nothing now. We were so close and together for 4 years and we had so much planned for the future that I can’t even get out of bed. The pain is terrible. Something I’ve never felt before. I haven’t ate, slept or made to work in two days. I have been thinking terrible thoughts about not even wanting to live anymore. I just signed up for this site cause google wasn’t helping. I talked to friends but nobody is going through what I am. I am heartsick and I feel abandoned by him.
Post # 3
So sorry this happened to you, hope some bees can help. hugs
Post # 4
((HUGS)) I am so sorry to hear this. Please, please don’t do anything to harm yourself. Talk to someone, a family member or counselor or friend. I know you must be in so much pain and my heart goes out to you. But it will get better, it just takes time. I can imagine your hurt and confusion. You must be trying to sort things out and wonder why would he do something like this to you. You will get through it and the sun will shine again. The loss of a relationship is no different from any other kind of loss, it’s unbelievably painful so it’s ok to allow yourself to grieve. But you also need to take little tiny steps each day towards recovery from the grief. Take care of yourself. Keep us posted on how you are doing. There are many wonderful people on this board to advise and comfort you.
Post # 5
There is absolutely no man on the planet worth losing your life over. As bad as it feels now, it is far far better than breaking up after getting married and/or having kids. Of course tou feel heartsick and abandoned! That’s only natural. But there are other men out there and believe it or not, women can have rich rewarding lives without getting married. Give yourself permission to grieve, then start working on rejoining the world again. Focus on YOUR HEALTH AND HAPPINESS.
Post # 6
I never had an engagement end, but I have felt like you before.
I was in love before and he broke my heart. I was absolutely miserable for weeks. I looked in to the future and just saw nothing there for me. All my plans had him in it. Now I am married and unbelievably happy. It can only get better from here, I promise!
If you need to talk to someone, feel free to PM me.
Post # 7
I’m so so sorry.
If you are having a hard time coping, please seek out some professional help. Don’t go through this alone!!
Post # 8
If you’re even thinking about thinking about harming yourself, please call the Nat’l Suicide Prevention Hotline, 1-800-273-8255.
I haven’t been in your situation exactly, but close enough to know that it is a devastating form of grief, for both the loss of the person you love, and the life you had been looking forward to. Only time will take away the hurt and confusion, until then you have to take care of yourself.
Post # 9
I’ve had that happen, he cheated and lied about something for 2 years. It sucked, I won’t lie. But, it got easier and easier each day. And by the time I had resigned myself to being single, and actually looking forward to it, I ran into dh.
Know that this pain is only temporary
Post # 10
Aww geez I’m so sorry! I’ve never had this happen, but I have been so heartsick before that I couldn’t get out of bed etc… I imagine its worse if you’ve been planning the rest of your life with this person in it. I wish I could give you a hug through the internet!
Post # 11
I was engaged for 16 months before and he called it off over facebook, needless to say life is so much better now without him. I hope you can work through this, hugs to you!
Post # 12
It was not recent, but I was with a man for 5 years, we were engaged for 3, and without warning it was all over. I felt terrible and was truely depressed for months, my school work suffered, my social life suffered, it was not a good time in my life.
That was 4 years ago. I never want to relive that pain and I am SO SORRY that you are having to go through this. What helped me was talking to the counselors on campus (It was my senior year of college at the time and we were just months away from the wedding) I can’t stress enough that it is important to talk to someone. I spent weeks alone in my appartment and it only made it worse. Your emotions are valid and you have every right to be upset and devistated right now. But it is possible to heal, I am proof. and there are many ladies in this world who have gone through similar things. Keep your head up and like previous posters said no man is worth your life, it was a crappy thing that he did and he doesn’t diserve the power to make you unhappy.
Please talk to someone, a counselor, a hotline, a preacher or minester, they can help, I promise.
Post # 13
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. This board is full of supportive women and we are here to listen if you want to talk. Please talk to somebody.
You WILL get through this. You will be happy again and you will love again. Maybe not today or tomorrow or the next day, but you will get there. I know there are good things in the world in store for you.
Post # 14
Dearest, i am so, so sorry ..i´ve had my heart broken, yes, to the point even breathing was difficult..i trully needed to remind myself of HOW to breathe..and it was painfull.. i remember walking in circles in my tiny house´s hall, completely loss and with an empty mind..heart bleeding, bledding..i felt despair. No willpower to wake up to another day of pain and shock..i cried inside at work, shopping, cooking..i had a 4 years old and was terrified..in my case, what helped me was a friend who suddenly became something more (physically only) but if i had a close friend nearby i know it would help. You need hugs,strong hugs, a shoulder to cry on and believe me, dearest..you can take a small step, one after the other and keep going..and one day when you look backwards you will be amazed how far you´ve gone.. Seek a friend. Someone who loves you. You can win this. You´re stronger than you believe..not right now of course…everyone needs to mourn before getting up..
lots of hugs
Post # 15
My husband left me after three years and two kids.sent me an email that said he didn’t want to be married anymore.Our son was 18 months and our daughter was four months. I know how bad it hurts,the embarrassment,dissapointment and sadness will go away.Be strong and remember things happen as they are meant to.My ex husband leaving me was the best thing that happened to me.I have met the man that I am meant to be with and you will too.Hang in there and feel free to message me anytime.
Post # 16
@Ashleyanne: I am sending you lots of hugs & happy thoughts. As a PP said, even though you are hurt, no man is worth losing your life over. I would suggest talking with a counselor or a church officiant to talk through the pain. Grieving is normal and should be dealt with appropriately. I am SO INCREDIBLY SORRY you are going through this & I wish you the best!