(Closed) Engaged and just found out I'm PREGNANT! Need advice!!!

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
143 posts
Blushing bee

@Maysqueen:  Keep the April date. Rock that belllllayyyyy!!!!! Find a cute dress that will fit you(: If you are that uncomfortable with it then move it to Feb. but if family has already started making plans and buying plane tickets I would just leave it.

Post # 4
143 posts
Blushing bee

PS. Congrats!

Post # 5
682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

That’s a tough one.  First of all CONGRATULATIONS!  I would probably want to move up the date if I could, though photographers are expensive…. Maybe offer to pay for your brother’s plane ticket change?  It would be a lot of work but you want to be carefree on your wedding day and if you think having more than just a baby bump would make you unhappy then you should do what you need to to make it better.  Good luck!   Sorry I’m not much help!

Post # 6
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would want to push it up if it were me as well. I dont think its selfish unless Fiance has a real good reason for not wanting Feb.   Weather is always a risk and while it may be more of a risk, I would think your desire to wear your dress and have pictures the way you picture yourself to be would outweigh it.

And these days almost all plane tickets can be changed for a small fee. 

Post # 7
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Have you thought about postponing the wedding four or five months? It’s likely you’d be able to keep your vendors this far out, fall is beautiful, you’d probably be able to fit back into your dress since the pregnancy would be over, and if you weren’t breastfeeding, you’d be able to drink at the reception.

Plus, I am sure all your guests would love getting to meet the new baby.

Post # 8
4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

First of all…..



at 6 months, I say you could keep the date (At that time you are still pretty comfortable and not huge!) and you can find a really cute wedding dress for the belly.

Or you could do the Feb date so you can fit in your dress. That is not selfish at all! It is entirely up to you. You might starting gaining weight by that time, but you don’t want to do alterations until you get close to the date anyway. I would just be concerned because you don’t want to be uncomfortable in a tight dress and every women gains weight differently in pregnancy. Some start showing at 3 months, some not until much later.

Post # 9
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I say keep it as is.  There are so many beautiful dresses out there for Mommies to be!! Im sure you can talk to the store where you bought your dress at and see if you can do an exchange. Be proud of the belly…thats your little creation!!! Congratulations!

Post # 10
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

There was an 8 1/2 months pregnant bride on english dont tell the bride- she was one of the most beautiful theyve ever had- I tried finding a pic that shows of the bump but none do it justice.

I supose it depends how much money to play with, if you can compensate flights, rebook all your vendors then if you really want to then look to move it. However changing your dress may just be a cheaper option. I know your family should be understanding and it cant be helped now but it’s the courteous thing to do.

You could always have a blessing afterwards in your first dress

Post # 11
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would absolutely keep your date. I personally think there is NO shame in being pregnant with your soon-to-be-husband’s baby! That Pampers commercial on TV has a pregnant bride in it and it makes me cry! I think it’s lovely.
Keep your date, find a rockin’ preggo dress and be in love, girl!

Post # 12
931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Generally I vote for keeping your date. I am just over six months pregnant now and I can tell you the bump is still in its “adorable phase”. That said, it is also OBVIOUSLY a bump. At 4 months (as the paralegal in my office kept reminding me) I could still have just been another fat midwestern girl. I much prefer how I look now.

Plus a new dress is going to be cheaper than dealing with the rest of it.

Oh, and lastly, I was still getting over morning sickness at 4 months, at 6 months my back is starting to bother me etc., but the worst of it is gone.

And congrats!!!

Post # 13
4 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013


As @EffieTrinket: said, have you considered postponing?

I found out I was pregnant during my engagement and due about a month from our planned date. My situation was quite different as we didn’t have anything booked. However, the main reason I am happy we did this is that I have sooo much more energy now than when I was pregnant…although I don’t have much free time 😛 (my daughter is two months now). It also helped me not stress during my pregnancy and just focus on that. In terms of fitting your dress – everyone is different, but for me – at four months pregnant, a lot of my clothes didn’t fit; two months postpartum, I’m back in my pre-pregnancy clothes.

If postponing is not an option for you, than I would just keeping the date. You won’t have to do any extra work and I’m sure you will look beautiful!!

Most importantly, do what makes you the least stressed so you stay a happy and healthy mama 🙂


Post # 14
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

First off, congrats!

Second, I wouldn’t put off the wedding! Can you have your dress taken out? One of my dear friends got married when she was six months pregnant and she was radiating on her big day!

Post # 16
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You also never know how your body will handle pregnancy. I’ve been sick the entire time and it wasn’t until I was 28 weeks that I was actually back at my pre-pregnancy weight. While I started to “show” around 5-6 months, it really wasn’t all that obvious. I hit 29 weeks this past weekend and it’s definitely a baby bump now, but I bet I could have fit into my dress prior.

I’d probably just keep the date and get it over with. Do you really want to go through replanning the wedding? I know I wouldn’t.

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