Post # 1
I have another 486 days before the wedding and am having a bad waiting day. I am very familiar with legitimate, waiting to be engaged feelings.. but this is pretty darn similar.
Does anyone else ever get feeling this way?
I just want to move in with him and be married, travel, come home from work to him.. etc. But I just feel like we have so much time to wait. Realistically, our date is the best choice financially and for us to get our shit together.. but really some days are just hard, frustrating, LOOOONG.. and I dont really know what to do to stop thinking like June 7, 2014 going to take FOREVER to get here!
Post # 3
@Seashells7: it’ll go by fast, I promise and you’ll be wishing you had more time!
The first few months are busy booking venues and vendors. Then, there’s a lull in planning for a few months – use this time to research your color scheme and pull together your overall vision. Then after the lull goes by, you’ll be back in full swing planning mode and feeling super rushed and pressed for time!
You’ll get there – we all go through it!
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - EDD 06/12/2016
My situation isn’t exactly the same, we have already lived together for 2 years,but I still wish the time would fly by lol I want to be able to call him my husband already!!
Post # 5
I know the feeling. When you want to get married…you want to get married!!! I actually had a friend who proposed to his GF, and then they decided that instead of waiting a year, they just got married the next weekend. Haha. But if you think waiting is best for you, wait.
I know personally, we’ve had a lot of temptation to elope. But once we sent out save the dates we felt obligated to have the wedding. But now I’m getting excited for the social aspect of a wedding. 🙂
Post # 6
its so hard somedays! thanks for the kind words ladies!
Post # 7
Is living together before you are married not an option?
Post # 8
I feel like I am so excited I can barely wait too…I am trying to enjoy life until the day. . I’m older. . We live together and I just want to be wife. I am going out to eat more, exercising and being with people. I would elope but I am having a nice party in the yard on our 6th anniversary. We aren’t having children, I already have adult children and grandchild. But each day is a day closer..♥
Post # 9
@Seashells7: I had the same feeling just today. I was like, maybe I could move it to June 2013 since we haven’t sent out STDs or anything! But then I just remind myself that it would be too stressful to move it forward, blah blah blah. I know just how you feel, though.
One thought that keeps me going is that my fiance’s cousin got engaged last spring (2012), and they set their wedding for June 2013. I remember thinking that it sounded like FOREVER when they set it, and now I look at the calendar and realize we should start thinking about making travel plans for their wedding and I’m like, where has the time gone! So I tell myself that I will have the same feeling about my own wedding in no time. 🙂
Post # 10
Just wanted to come back and tell anyone who is struggling with this that I was talking to one of my BM and she had a 2 year engagement and got married this past September. I was having a bad day overthinking the looooong engagement and she gave me this advice:
Being engaged in the grand scheme of things is a very short, unique time that you can really use to help develop your relationship with your FI. It is more than dating but you are not a wife yet, it is blissfully fun and lets you feel the newness and excitement of a relationship again without the worry of dating. She told me that there will be tough days and when she had those she wrote letters to herself with a quote relating to it on the envelope. Writing about this time will help value it and remind you later, once you are married of your identity as an individual. She was saying that it is hard to describe but it feels different being a wife because you are one with another person then. Writing to yourself will help now and help then 🙂
I thought that was awesome and encouraging 🙂 416 days to go!