Engaged at 21, what were the reactions?

posted 2 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 31
254 posts
Helper bee

I was engaged at 22; long story short- it didn’t last. 


ETA: I posted without seeing all the comments- I hope this doesn’t down your engagement, just giving my story- congrats!

Post # 32
47 posts
  • Wedding: October 2020

I just got engaged in July and I was 21 at the time (turned 22 at the end of August). My fiance is 24 and is done with college and working for almost two years, whereas I just graduated with my undergrad and I’m finishing up my master’s degree. His parents were estatic and have been nothing but supportive.  My parents, on the other hand, were not that thrilled and a bit taken aback by the engagement.   I’m the baby of the family so I think it has been hard for them to accept that I’m growing up. They also would have preferred that I finish my master’s and started working before getting engaged. If your family does have a bad reaction, just sit down with them and explain how you feel and what has brought you to this point.  That is what seemed to work with mine.  I wish you the best!

Post # 33
646 posts
Busy bee

It’s all about maturity. Some 21 year olds are so far mature beyond their years, some 30 year olds act 18. 


Post # 34
1622 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

I was engaged at 20. The reactions were fine. The divorce sucked. 

Post # 35
17 posts

First off, Congrats!! Your ring is so beautiful! 

I got engaged just a few months ago, and I am 21, and my FH is 23. We’ll be 22 and 24 when we get married. My best advice is don’t let anyone’s judgment get to you! Everyone has different life timelines, and if you and your FH truly believe that this is the right time for y’all to be engaged, then that’s all that matters! I know it’s hard to not listen to other people, but you just have to realize that you might be way ahead in your timeline than the person that’s giving you judgement for being engaged so young. For example, by the end of August 2020, I will be at the end of my 4th year of college, and I will have a BA and a MAT. On the otherhand, my good friend is going into her 5th year of college and will receive her BA this November. Everyone’s just got a different timeline. Hope this advice helps! Best of luck, and ENJOY your engagement! It’s a wonderful time!

Post # 36
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2021 - Concord, Ontario

We also got engaged at 21 and are getting married when we’re 22.  I am a teacher and Rachael is a computer analyst. Our families knew once we were done with school and that we had full time jobs in our fields that we would get married 

Post # 37
947 posts
Busy bee

From someone who was married with 2 kids at 21 …good luck with that.  I would encourage my daughter to wait. 

Post # 38
351 posts
Helper bee

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jazzyb123 :  I’m 23, newly engaged, and in graduate school. While nobody outwardly said anything rude, it was a tone/how they said it. Just let it slide off your back! It’s your life. As long as you’re in love and happy that’s all that matters!

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