I was engaged at eighteen and never got married, and that was the best decision I have ever made.
I am absolutely opposed to teenage marriages, but that doesn’t matter, because I’m not in charge of your life, and nothing anyone tells you is going to change your mind. I ignored a lot of good advice, and you know, that was part of growing up.
I want you to know, though, that no one who is giving you the advice to wait is saying that you and your fiance are not madly in love or that you won’t spend your lives together, but why make it harder on yourselves?
I KNOW that it is difficult to be away from the man you love. Mine was a military relationship, too, and I know that all you want is to be together. I’m really sorry that you’re having to go through that. It is so hard.
Both of you are going to change and grow so much in the coming years, and while it’s possible that you’ll change and grow together and grow stronger in your relationship, it’s also possible that you’ll grow apart. It happens. Just be aware of that.
The last thing I have to say is that EVERYONE feels that they are mature for their age, but the fact is that you are still seventeen, and your brain is not PHYSICALLY developed yet. I know that’s not something that you want to hear, either.
I know that you probably think I’m a big meanie for telling you all of this, but by posting this thread, you are opening yourself up to hear it. I’m not telling you not to get married, because I know you probably will, but before you take that step, I really just want you to be aware of all of the things I’ve mentioned here. I wish you and your fiance all of the happiness in the world.