- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Hi, new here…
When my sister got engaged last year, I was so, so happy! He is wonderful and already part of our family. It was a very happy time. They, however, decided to pass on getting married this summer because they wanted to save more money for the wedding (paying for it themselves) so opted to plan for next summer.
Then my boyfriend proposed. I called my sister and it was clear she was dissapointed. I can’t tell you how much this broke my heart. I realized she was upset that we were both engaged at the same time. I thought this would be great news: her sister is marrying the man of her dreams. But she was upset that she wasn’t the only engaged one now (I’m assuming).
She says she needs to talk to me. She hasn’t told me yet, but I have a credible source that tells me she is going to ask us to postpone our wedding from next summer to the one after, making it a two year engagement. She is planning around July 25th, and us August 28th (ish).
One of the problems I have with this is that they aren’t very stable right now (by no fault of their own). When they got engaged last year, they wanted to be married this summer – but failed to save any money. Now they want to get married next summer, but I have no gaurantee they will be able to save the money. So if they fall through again next summer, where does that leave me?
I can’t help but be really angry about this. My sister and her boyfriend have had a pretty rough few years, in financial, family, and health (especially health) related arenas. I feel like they have good reasons they couldn’t get married this summer, and I sympathise with her. However, I met the man I want to marry, and I want to marry him: I would do it tomorrow, but we are trying to be curtious and waiting till after their date (and the summer would be nice aswell.)
Is she being selfish? What bothers me most is that I want to be happy, and I want my family to be happy for me. I feel like we should be extra happy that both of us are so in love, and we should be celebrating together. My heart breaks when I think that she is just jealous or upset, and that those emotions are overshadowing her happiness for me.
Help! Advice needed. What do I say to her when she asks me to postpone the wedding? I am 100% set on getting married next summer, wheather or not they do. I am going to marry him, come hell or high water.