(Closed) Engaged at the same time

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

This is a sticky situation I think. Men just don’t understand. He probably should have held off. I don’t have any advice as to what to do. 

Post # 4
1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wear the ring, but maybe don’t bring the subject up. If they notice your ring, I’d say be honest about it. It sounds like you’re really excited for them too so let them know that. I personally love talking to other engaged couples I know because it’s fun to discuss planning, so hopefully they’ll feel the same way.

Post # 5
3605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

so its your best friends brother and his GF/FI???   im meh, i mean the world doesnt stop just because they got engaged, you are entitled to live your life as well so i would hate… HATE… to have to take the ring off and put it away so someone else wont feel ive stolen “thunder”.  it just doesnt seem very adult (the thunder thing)  so i hope you wear your ring

Post # 6
5592 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you guys have enough “degrees of separation” that it will just be fun that you and another friend got OMG ENGAGED AT THE SAME TIME (insert schol-girlish scream) 🙂


Really, I would have been happy to share the fun and happiness with a good friend.

Post # 7
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Call them first to tell them quietly. Listen to their opinion whether or not to keep yours quiet for a bit in your social circle or to share the double-happy news together.

Post # 8
727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011


A friend of mine also got engaged about the time that I did and it just made being engaged more fun because I could plan with her.  (Then they broke up so that was awkward)

I think I would probably tell them before you see them so they can at least adjust to the idea, you know?  Rather than feeling they have to pretend to be happy when they’re actually hurt.

And congrats!

Post # 9
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i dont think you should take off your ring for THIS reason. if you don’t wanna mention it then don’t but don’t hold back if you really wanna share the excitement. Do you have a big mouth friend who will tell everyone to get the awkwardness out of the way? lol!

Post # 10
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My sister got engaged a week before DH planed on doing it so he waited 2 more months. it worked out just fine and maybe the first convo will be wierd but after that, Who cares! you are 2 seperate couples having 2 seperate weddings so Why not?

even worse my sister had almost the same ring but on steroids!

Post # 12
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Please, wear your ring and be excited that you are engaged!  There is no “thunder stealing” here. Why can’t two people be engaged at the same time?  I was thrilled when I found out that a friend of mine had gotten engaged the same weekend that I did.  Be happy for them and hopefully they will return the happiness.

Sidenote:  Are people really that petty to get upset that someone else had the same exciting thing happen?  I don’t get it.

Post # 13
625 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

IMO if you choose to hide your engagement from your friends and family right now, your doing yourself and your Fiance a disservice. Its your time to be happy and excited as well. And even if you wait a month to tell them about your engagement it may be misconstrude that your SO proposed because of S&J… and thats not something you want either.

Post # 15
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

a couple of my friends, my ex-bf, and two musicians we are fans of…. all got engaged in the same week. 

my friends and i were all excited for each other and it was a pile of giggly girls all showing off our rings. there were no hard feelings or stolen spotlights. hopefully it goes the same way for you.


lol the only thing that i hated is that i have the longest engagement. two of the couples are already married now, the last friend’s date is in april, and mine is in last place next october.

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