- 2 years ago
- Wedding: August 2020
This past Sunday night the love of my life asked me to marry him. I want to start out by saying I am so very happy to be planning our life together! Truly, I am so thankful to have him.
I am seeking some advice as well…does anyone relate to not feeling really engaged? Perhaps a little let down, after all the waiting and anticipation? Again, I’m very happy and would never want to make my FH feel bad in any way.
Some background, I was waiting for quite a while for this engagement, but my SO had some personal things (unrelated to us 2) to work through, and it was important to him that he plan a really special proposal for me. We talked extensively about marriage for so long, I sort of felt engaged already, I suppose.
But the night he asked me was spur of the moment…we had actually been bickering earlier in the evening (rare for us) and he ended up bending down on 1 knee and asking “will you marry me?”
It still means a lot, but I think I’m struggling to process it. He had asked me to wait in order to save for a ring and to make it a special memory, but he asked spur of the moment (he confirmed it was on impulse) and without a ring. I don’t need a ring, and I just wanted a low-key, private proposal. I didn’t want any bells and whistles! I just feel a little sad that something he hyped up so much was done on a day we were arguing, and after he asked we only pent a few more minutes together, then he went home (not living together currently, but will be soon).
Another piece of this is that we haven’t told a single person yet. We want to tell our families first, and in person, but probably won’t get a chance until this weekend or the next.
Finally, I tend to take a while to process big emotions, so maybe I will feel more excited soon!
Sorry this is so long, bees. I hope I don’t come off as demanding. I truly am happy I get to marry the love of my life. Just thought I would post to get some insight from other women. Has anyone else been here??