(Closed) Engaged but no ring- legit?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: If a couple is engaged but there isn't a ring yet, I think-
    It's just as legit as any ring-ed engagement : (244 votes)
    56 %
    It's more legit than a ring-ed engagement because they don't need a ring to prove anything : (14 votes)
    3 %
    It's semi-legit but I wouldn't take it as seriously : (138 votes)
    32 %
    It's not legit til there's a ring : (36 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    The engagement is the commitment to get married and set a date on it. I was engaged 3 days before we went to buy a ring and it was official – the ring just made my finger prettier.

    What about ladies that don’t WANT a ring at all? They just go from dating to married?

    🙂

    Post # 4
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    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    The ring is just an extra. Like a birthday gift. You dont NEED a birthday gift to prove its your bday just like you dont NEED an engagement ring to prove you’re engaged. But either one is always welcome! =D

    Post # 6
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    1897 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I don’t know…the symbol of the ring is pretty significant in my mind.  It doesn’t need to be diamond, or expensive—but SOMETHING tangible to represent the commitment is pretty important IMO.

    Post # 7
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    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We did things this way until we had enough $$$ for the ring. We kept it fairly quiet, though, as R wanted to do a “real” proposal with the ring. To me, they were the same level of commitment. We were just making the decision not to buy beyond our means! 

    Post # 8
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    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    In my eyes, all the bees in the “waiting” that have agreed with their Fiance that they’ll get married and are starting to plan a wedding are engaged. The commitment is there, the ring is a detail.

    Post # 9
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    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    It may seem kinda shallow, but to me, it seems like if he is willing to save up money and sacrifice things that he wants for something that means something to the relationship, then maybe he seems more serious about it? I dunno, it sounds so wrong, but I like the fact that my Fiance saved up money for my ring. Its special

    Post # 10
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    1932 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2008

    sometimes people can’t afford a ring right away but they want to make the next move.

    or sometimes, the guys know that they would SUCK at picking out a ring, as was the case for my brother in law haha. Several guys shouldn’t and won’t be trusted with getting a ring, I had to hint at the kind of ring I wanted to my fi, just in case.. 

    I would definitely say it’s legitimate. 

    I like how mSmartins put it “You dont NEED a birthday gift to prove its your bday just like you dont NEED an engagement ring to prove you’re engaged.”

    Post # 11
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    2289 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I was engaged for about three months before we had a ring. I suppose it would have made it more “real”, but I also didn’t get a big proposal either 😛 I was just as engaged before the ring as after the ring.

    Post # 12
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    2007 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    A ring (or any other pretty bauble) is of course NOT necessary and this does NOT include couples who don’t plan on getting a ring but I would take it a little less seriously in most instances. 

    Of course, I’m also thinking in extremes like my cousin who got engaged in hmmm… 2003? 2004? sans ring and hasn’t gotten married yet.  There are a lot of individual circumstances (family doesn’t love the guy, etc.) but I don’t consider her as engaged as say my friends who just got engaged (with a ring) this winter and are getting married next fall.  Ok, so maybe the ring doesn’t really have anything to do with it at all.  I retract my vote a little bit.  🙂

    Post # 13
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    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I get people not considering themselves engaged if they don’t have a ring. What I don’t get is people who are planning their wedding (may have actually put down deposits on things/bought wedding related items) but still don’t consider themselves engaged. Undecided

    To me, if you’re actively planning a wedding, you’re engaged. With or without the ring. Of course, you can be NOT planning the wedding, without a ring, and still be engaged as well!

    Post # 14
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    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    Funny how the vast majority of posters think that it’s completely legit without a ring, but votes do not reflect that. I’d be curious for the rationale of those who voted that it’s semi-legit but not too serious (majority of votes)?

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