(Closed) Engaged, but possibly still Waiting

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Um..He got you the ring and proposed TWICE. I think he did his job here and you guys been officialy engaged , I dont see why he needs to propose again?

Post # 4
1103 posts
Bumble bee

If you have a ring, 2 proposals and are planning a wedding, you are definitely engaged! I’ve no idea why he feels he should propose a 3rd time, what would be the purpose of that? A friend of mine while she was engaged used to take her ring off, give it back to her Fiance and say “ask me again” and he would, it was kind of a sweet little ritual for them to remember what it was like when he asked the first time. Darling Husband and I still sometimes say “will you marry me” when we are feeling particularly in love! This sounds a bit different though.

I don’t know if you’ve pressured your Fiance, it does sound like the ring shopping and engagement was your idea but I have to assume he is a grown man and if he didn’t want to marry you he wouldn’t have gone through all of that. I do think he needs to agree on the wedding date, you don’t want to be wondering on your wedding day if your husband really wants to be there or not. That would be sad. You guys just need to talk it out some more I think.

Post # 5
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I wanted to be funny here but fell flat. So rather than risk offending, I’ll just be straight with you. You’re not waiting for anything and it’s unfair to keep asking him to re-propose. That is the part that’s really forced by you. And I promise each new proposal is going to seem more contrived than the last. You have a sweet story, the ring you wanted, and a wedding date to marry the man of your dreams. Stop waiting and live in the moment. I promise, it’s a good one. 😉

Post # 9
3667 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Some guys just get nervous in the moment, aren’t really romantic to begin with, or don’t understand the “perfect proposal” we often fantasize about… Instead of waiting for a third proposal, why not have a romantic dinner together to celebrate your engagement? You can talk mutually about how much you love each other, and hopefully that will take some of the pressure off him and still be meaningful to you.

Post # 11
935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Oh that’s cute! I say let him propose as many times as he wants…. the two of you are still really “engaged”, without a doubt.

You can even have a sense of humor about his progressive propals 🙂 Like, how many time is he going to out-do himself?


Post # 12
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I agree – definately engaged! But dont feel embarassed or anything – your boy just kept telling you that he was going to propose again!

Why dont you propose to him with his own little ring?

Post # 13
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

the only reason he would offer to propose again is if he felt you werent impressed enough by the proposal.. i dont see any other reason y somone would propose more than once.. just tell him he doesnt have to and then focus on planning the wedding!!

Post # 14
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

this is too cute, and i felt like i pushed my guy as we had been together 3 years and basically are married without the paperwork. home cars, finaces in both our names. i met him when i was 19 i am now 23 and we are finally engaged but he waited 4 months after purchasing the ring to propose to me and man oh man did he plan the most amazing night!!!  and just so you know my guy does not have a romantic bone in his body lets just say!!!  but man did he deliver the most amazing beautiful proposal to me!!!! just wait it may not be this week this month or even this year but it will come and perhaps he wants to keep proposing until he is happy with it!!!

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