(Closed) Engaged Early On in the Relationship – The Reactions?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

As said before, we got engaged 18 months into the relationship, and we did not live together at the time. But my parents were asking when we’d get married like, after 6 months or so… They knew we were right for each other. Not one negative reaction.

Do your family members know your SO? What do they think about him?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We were only together 6 months when we got engaged, but I think because of our ages no one really batted an eye (we were both 33 at the time).  I guess they figure we’re old enough to know what we are doing!  That and our parents really really really want grandkids so they were really excited for us! 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

yes, my fiance and I had only been dating for 6 months when we got engaged. but you know, my parents had loved him when they first met him – and so did my grandparents and everyone…so when I told everyone we were engaged they were super excited. There were a few that were like wow that’s really soon, but everyone who really knew us had no issue with it, and now that it’s less than two months out from wedding I don’t hear it at all… but it never really mattered to me what everyone else though, I adore my man and he really loves me and treats me like a queen. Sometimes, you just know. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My Fiance and I got engaged 4 months after we started dating.  Our parents were happy for us and we never heard negative reactions from any of our friends or other family, but I’m sure some of my more judgemental friends probably had a few things to say to each other about it.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yup we were engaged and legally married before our one year dating anniversary. We knew it was right for us. I found that people who knew us and our relationship well weren’t surprised but people who heard of it and hadn’t had the chance to see us together thought we were crazy. At the end of it all, we only really wanted the blessings of our parents and both sets were pretty gungho!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We got engaged 7 months after we met.  We got serious pretty quickly and spent a lot of time with each other’s families over the Christmas holidays, so everyone was pretty comfortable.  Also, I’m 27 and he is 31…so I think people figure we are old enough to make decisions for ourselves.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we were together 11 months before he proposed. our families were increadibly happy for us, and so were our friends. his mom was actually wearing my ering before i got it b/c it’s a family diamond, and she apparently was trying to give him the ring after 2 months of dating. my parents love him, my mom was crazy happy. nobody seemed very surprised- we were living together for 6 months by then and got serious pretty quick.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We were engaged after 8 months.  I actually felt like it was too soon but everyone else reacted normally.  He had gotten permission from my parent’s and had talked to my sister about it.  We have had a long engagement though – 21 months!  We weren’t living together when we got engaged but have now been living together for over a year.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We were engaged after 10 months, but talking about marriage and planning the wedding at about 6 months. There was some hesitation from our families but that went away fast. Our friends were a little more incredulous but now that we’ve been engaged a while everyone is very excited for us.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

My husband and I were unofficially engaged after 1 month, officially after 4. The reaction was good at first, but after we picked a date (3 months later) and reserved a venue, my parents started having real problems with it. My father actually told me that I didn’t have permission to get married on the date we chose and a lot of things were said against my husband. My parents also threatened not to come when it was clear that my husband and I had no intention of pushing back the wedding. They did end up coming by the way, and we didn’t move our date.

Our friends were all for it, as they had seen us together more than anybody else had. They may have had their initial reservations about it, but they made it clear that they supported us as long as we were sure of our decision.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We were engaged after 8 months. No questions, however we were both 36. Our engagement was slightly less than a year.

Post # 15
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382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We were youngish when we got engaged-23 and 25, and we got engaged at 11 months. We had already been living together for 6 months by that time so we were already basically like a married couple. We also knew we were going to have a long engagement (2 years) so no one said anything negative. Everyone was happy for us and congratulated us. In the back of some people’s minds though, I’m sure they were thinking “Too soon! Too young!” We are very happily married now though 😀

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Fi and I got engaged after 3 month of dating. I was 20 and he was 23. In that 3 months we went through alot, I lost my sister and the week after he lost his job, it was not good times but we made it through and knew we wanted to get married. I know our family was excited but I did have some friends who were iffy on the whole thing. Before my sister passed away i had mentioned it to her and she wasn’t for it at all, she wanted us to wait a year before doing anything of the sort. She wanted me to stay single and live my life more.  Well to this day we have gone through so many things and just the other day I told him, hun, its probably my sister putting us though all of this crap to see if we can really make it. I sometimes think about how she didn’t want this for me and this is what I chose anyway. I just wonder if they would have warmed up to each other more I guess.

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