sorry this may turn into a long, negative rant….
we went to our 8-hour workshop last Saturday. It was basically what I expected. But I wasn’t expecting to enjoy it, just be able to tolerate it… My fiance on the other hand was very very frustrated by the whole thing, despite saying he went into it with an open mind.
As I mentioned in my previous post, he’s Jewish, and we are doing the whole dispensation thing (it was approved! so yay for that), and are having a rabbi and a deacon officiate.
The thing that was most frustrating I think was that we went around the room and introduced ourselves at the beginning. how you met, when is your wedding, etc. AND, your religion. there were about 25 couples there. tons of Catholic-Protestant pairings. very few Catholic-Catholic couples. he was the ONLY Jewish person in the entire church social hall. and the dumbest thing about it– during the entire 8 hours, they made no mention of interfaith challenges, not a single exercise about how to deal with compromise, etc, even from just a Catholic-Protestant perspective. So why did we have to be singled out if they weren’t even going to address it or comment on it??
And then there was the preachiness of it. Although I was prepared to deal with that. But I don’t like hearing statistics that tithing to the church, and practicing natural family planning “causes” marriages to stay together. Correlation does not imply causation…Pretty sure there is just a common predisposition to both things there.
Or that just because we are getting married, that must mean we are like childen moving out of our parents houses for the first time who have never managed money. I get that talking about finances is important in a relationship. but it was a little condescending. Too much Budget 101, and not just stressing the importance of openness and honesty.
We did 1 exercise that I liked. Love Languages… that was meaningful and actually touched on like, how to build your relationship and understand each other.
It just really seemed like the whole workshop COULD have focused a much longer portion of the day on a lot better topics rather than just the preachy required ones. it had definite potential to be awesome, but it just missed. Maybe it just comes down to your instructors?