(Closed) Engaged Encounter this weekend…what to expect

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
Member
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

There’s some good reviews in this thead

Engaged Encounter

 

We did it and LOVED it!  Be prepared for a LOT of handwriting though! lol

Post # 4
Member
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve heard different views- no matter where you are, they are not all the same. My day was actually a lot better than I anticipated. I am marrying a Catholic (I’m Lutheran) so I was a little out of my element. Sure they focus on NFP a lot and say living with eachother is horrible but honestly the best thing about our day was working with married couples.

I suggest looking for the book “5 Love Languages.” A couple running the class made us do a quiz and it was very informative. By knowing how you can truly connect with your future husband, it will make things even better!

Post # 5
Member
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We did ours two weekends ago (not in Baltimore though). We stayed in a really awesome convent. It was dorm-room style with roommates. Reminded me of college! ๐Ÿ™‚ Started very early Saturday a.m. and ended Sunday around 5 p.m. Staying overnight was required in our diocese.

There were 22 engaged couples there on our weekend. I had been warned by my friends that most of the couples who attend engaged encounter were older (in their 30s, 40s and 50s…which is NOT old, just for the record lol) but we were pleasantly surprised to find that probably 3/4 of the couples there were in their 20s, just like us! So during meal times we met a lot of nice people just like us planning their weddings, so there were plenty of people to talk with and pal around with at meal time – which actually made it pretty fun.

Each person is given a handbook/notebook for the weekend. There were 2 presenting couples who were probably in their 50s. They ran the weekend. They were very sociable and basically their job was to introduce the discusssion topics, share their marriage experiences with us so we had real-life examples to listen to and understand, and of course, they were available to talk with anyone at any time. You write in the notebook and obviosuly you get to keep them – which makes a very nice, loving keepsake for years to come.

Be prepared for LOTS of writing. Seriously. I love reading and writing. My fiance doesn’t. And because of that I enjoyed our engaged encounter more than he did. Here’s how our schedule went all weekend: We listed to the presentation and their personal stories from the presenting couples on a particular marriage topic, men and women go to seprate rooms and read a page of questions/prompts/thoughts, and then you write for 20 minutes, you meet back up with your fiance and read what the other one wrote and then you discuss it. Repeat about 15 times. There were some fun little games and activities scattered in there to break it up a little, a late night prayer service and blessing of the hands, a really casual group questions/discusssion time with all the couples together and a priest so anyone can ask and recieve questions to anything they may be wondering about with regards to engagement, marriage or a wedding, and then a concluding mass on Sunday evening.

The weekend did bring up a lot of good points, interesting things to discuss, and a lot of tips and ideas for keeping a marriage fresh, strong, and healthy in the future. Some of the activties were fun. Overall it is just a really nice way to spend some time preparing for your marriage and spening quality time with your fiance.

Hope this helped you a little. Feel free to ask any other questions you may have! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
Member
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

That’s funny, ours barely covered NFP at all (we got a 20 min. highlight reel) and while they didn’t “condone” living together, they didn’t dwell on it! It really will depend on your area and leaders though. The couples that lead will share their experiences… but then you and your Fiance will separate to write to each other… then you get together and discuss. Repeat that times 20 lol

Post # 7
Member
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Our conference was 9-4 and we actually didn’t have to write too much. NFP was not only covered by the young priest, the director, a presentation with anatomy overviews, they even raffled off a monitor! We gathered in the morning, then broke off into a session, had lunch, another session, gathered back together to reflect on the day.

Post # 8
Member
21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2017

One of my coworkers did it with her fiance this past weekend and had a nice time!

Post # 9
Member
1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It wasn’t as bad as I thought.  I thought it was going to be really boring.  It wasn’t.  I actually enjoyed the journals that we wrote because we will be able to look back at them.  The whole experience brought the two of us a lot closer.  My favorite was when we wrote love letters to each other.  As much as I didn’t want to go and as tiring as it was, it was worth it and my Fiance and I left never feeling closer to each other than we did that Sunday.  Enjoy it!

Post # 11
Member
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think @rawrkitty really nailed the weekend’s schedule…ours in Oceanside (San Diego) was rather similar.  The only differences: our married couples were both ends of the gamut – one who’d been married 35 years (in their 60’s?) & one who’d been married 11 years …and had a 13 year-old, a 9 year-old, & a 3 year-old (all not present).  Yeah, you read that right…one of our presenting married couples had not only lived together before they were married, but had a child out of wed-lock & they were FANTASTIC presenters & GREAT models of Catholics who had sinned, confessed, & made a marriage based in God’s Love as well as their own love.  So, cohabitation/pre-marital sex were dealt with in such a way that didn’t pile on the guilt or shame. 

The best part of the weekend was leaving with a sense of UNITY between Fiance & I.  Fiance isn’t Catholic (not even baptized) & the weekend helped me realize that he is with me on every decision (about Faith, about Family, about priorities), regardless. It was a GREAT start to our wedding planning process.

Hope yours goes well, too!

Post # 12
Member
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

EAT DINNER BEFORE YOU GO TONIGHT!

The topic ‘Engaged Encounter this weekend…what to expect’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors