(Closed) engaged fo 3 years …… am i settling?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
5891 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@maxfluffy:  It sounds like your relationship has stalled. Have you asked him why the wedding planning has stopped?

If it were me, I’d ask myself, “Am I happy and content with no regrets if not one thing changes from now until I die?” If my answer is NO, then I would leave him. He is not going to change. Dont waste your energy trying to at this point. If he really wanted to be married to you, it would have happened by now.

Sorry

Post # 4
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81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would just ask him ‘why haven’t we started making any plans for the wedding?’ if he says ‘because you haven’t done anything’ well maybe it’s time you took the reins and started booking some appointments?

But I think at the core of this is what will be your living arrangements when you do get married? Because if you don’t want to live with his whole family that is OK and it would take a pretty special kind of person who is willing to do that (not me, that;s for sure!).

Post # 5
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74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@maxfluffy:  Tough call…

 

I will say, that if you are unsure now- its probably a bad idea… I knew with all my heart, that I wanted to spend forever with my guy. 

on the inverse from that, there is NO WAY that my Fiance will ever help with any wedding plans. If I did nothing, we would be permanately engaged too

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