(Closed) Engaged for 10 months, wedding in 6 months, nothing done

posted 9 years ago in June 2013
Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I got a little overwhelmed at the beginning when we were looking for a venue, but once we booked that everythign had fallen into place…. so far πŸ™‚

We have 10 months left and I have the venue, caterer, DJ, Reverend and musician booked already.

I took a break from it all in December and will start looking for a dress in January.

The only thing that I am trying to do now is secure a photographer. We used one for our engagement photos and they turned out ok but i am not happy with his service and respnse times. He is unable to give me detailed info on the package… aghrrr it’s liek pulling teeth. So yeah, I am fed up and looking for a different one.

Other then that I find wedding plannign to be fun and exciting πŸ™‚ 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@everyheart:  Wow! That actually sounds like an amazing idea.. haha! 

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

1) APW is definitely the best; i swear by it!

2) I recently got some great advice from a married friend when i was freaking out about not having anything done. she said she decided that anything that someone brought up that she hadn’t thought of herself obviously wasn’t that important, so not worth stressing about.  she figured stuff like that would get done by someone else who cared about it enough to do it, or it wouldn’t be at the wedding and she wouldn’t miss it.  it sounds weirdly simple but it has helped me to have that mindset going in to all the overwhelming conversations. 

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Thank you so much Bees! I just ordered a copy of APW and I am printing out the spreadsheets that are on the blog <3

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@everyheart:  I would work on getting a venue and you can work out the smaller stuff later.  I do not have a catering company set in stone. I am still reviewing my options. πŸ™‚ Make a list of things to do, maybe once a month find (1-2) vendors. πŸ™‚ Good luck! πŸ™‚

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We planned our wedding in 3 months, and I wouldn’t change a thing! It can be done! Just make a list of what is important to you, and check off a little at a time. Keep in mind that you don’t have to have all the bells and whistles – just do what you love and what’s important to you! I feel like the wedding industry has overblown weddings so much and made brides feel like they ‘have’ to have certain things. Just take it day by day πŸ™‚

Post # 26
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@everyheart:  don’t worry, it is totally doable.  i planned my whole wedding in 5 months from another country via phone and email. 

get a good planner and start checking off the boxes.  the key is to stay focused and don’t be wishy washy with your decisions.

if you have questions, the bees will always be here for you.

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would say to start doing your research and then booking appointments to meet with:

DJ/Band

Photographer

Officiant

Florist

Have you sent save the dates? They should be sent now if they havent already.

Did you want a videographer?

 

If vendors dont get booked quickly in your city then I say start with the above and take it one at a time. Those are the major things aside from your dress.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Ugh I am feeling it and I’m not until the end of August. My Fiance said to me the other day “OMG I didn’t know there was so much involved in planning! I thought we were almost done!” And we’ve only booked a couple of things

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I feel the same way! I thought I was a bad fiance that when he said “honey we have 170 days until our wedding”  I cringed. There is so much to do! I am not a procrastinator unless I feel overwhelmed. Weddings are overwhelming. I will be trying to figure one thing out, and I think or see about 300 more things I need to do. So, I have no advice, other than get yourself a good notebook, a to-do list (that you share with your fiance) and to realize that it will go off and it will be beautiful no matter what.

One thing that my fiance does really well is keep me sane. Not when he mentions how many days we have until the big day, but when I feel overwhemled beyond belief, he is always there with a hug and a smile. I know yours is in a different state, but make sure to skype him when you feel overwhelmed, remind yourself the reason you are having the big day in the first place, and it will help you in more ways than you can imagine. 

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