(Closed) Engaged for a week, and he already has opinions

posted 10 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

haha well it does sound like it will be a fun wedding! I guess you are going to have to compromise! The best weddings I’ve been to are the ones that really represent the couple and their interests.

Let him investigate the logistics of a lot of these… he might come to realise that its not actually possible!

Post # 4
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Haha, your Fiance sounds like a fun guy.

I love the nerf idea!

As for the bounce house, kind of a downer, but look into having guests sign a waiver – I know a lot of people who’ve gotten broken ankles, wrists, etc. in them, and the landowners could be held liable. Yikes!

Maybe you could compromise with some of the nicer paperless invites out there?

Post # 5
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ya, I was going to say, I bet you two are super fun to be around!! HAHA… 🙂 Your guests are going to have a blast! I think it’s great that he has opinions.. just make sure you allow yourself to help with the planning!!

Post # 6
9024 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

lol at suit of armor…. i kno someone who go married in a light blue tux. granted they were only 21 but it didnt look too terrible lol

Post # 7
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ahh thanks for the laugh. Imagine a wacky inflatable arm flailing man at a wedding! Sounds like you need to roll your eyes, utter “sure honey, sounds like a GREAT idea!” and walk out of the room.

Post # 8
3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I may have gotten a little too excited when I read wacky waiving inflatable arm flailing tube man…

Post # 9
32 posts

oh man. i just cracked up at my desk. that sounds like a top wedding! wacky waving inflatable arm flailing tube man. ahh family guy. respect.

Post # 10
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

lol i think guys have a whole different way of thinking, my fiance wanted wrapped up burritos for the dinner??? oh and to add a splash of class add a thank you tag and they turn into favors as well as the food lol!!!! i laughed so hard until i figaured out he wasnt joking!!!

Post # 11
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think if I were to OK Star Wars stuff, my guy’s groomsmen would be wearing storm trooper costumes.  But he looked at me funny when I went “And we can have board games, and a bonfire, and fireworks, and… and… a SCAVENGER HUNT!” and when I went “It should be blorange.  Even my mom approves of navy blue dresses and orange flowers.”  

I’d be up for just about everything except the invites and no photographer.  My guy, fortunately, turns out to be a touch more conservative on such things than I am.

Post # 12
6391 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Mine wants to frame everything around our favorite TV show, “Doctor Who.” It’s a British show, and we’re in the Midwest of the USA, so only a handful of people even know what it is.

We’ve snuck in a few elements (ie – blue and white for our colors, reminiscent of the TARDIS, if any of you know it) in our planning, but some of his ideas have been vetoed right off the bat. Boys have some crazy ideas. It’s like they’re planning a five-year-olds birthday party instead of a wedding.

Post # 13
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

What IS it with men and paperless invites and photography?

My Fiance thought we could get away with just putting disposable cameras on the tables at the reception. I told him all of our pictures would be crap and he said “well who cares? You only display the ones of your family.” Uh, no.

And now in the midst of our RSVPs coming in he keeps saying “we should have just done an e-vite.” No, we shouldn’t have.

Honestly, this sounds more like a kiddie birthday party than a wedding. And if that’s what you guys want, then that’s fine, but are YOU on board with all of this stuff? You’ve listed both fun (bouncehouse!!) and logistically-challenging (self-catering) ideas. I think you maybe need to veto some off the bat (hire a real photographer, a tux rental will be cheaper than a suit of armor rental probably) and think really hard about others … the self-catering especially worries me because:

who will serve food and drinks?

who will set everything up?

who will clean everything?

He’ll say “oh our families will help with that” but … would you, if you were in heels and a nice dress?


Also, unless grandma’s on facebook, online invites aren’t really going to work …

Post # 14
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ohhh my! haha Well it sounds like the groom is as excited as the bride. I guess this is what a wedding would be like if we let the men plan them. My Fiance has thrown some funny stuff out there jokingly though I think if he could get away with it he would go for it.

I would probably really enjoy such an event though it sounds more like a party than a wedding. And you need to think if that is ok with you in the long run. If so, then go for it.

Post # 15
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh my, you just gave me a good chuckle!!  and I dont mean to be rude! I can’t believe he is THAT opininated towards the big day, but WOW… interesting ideas! lol

Yes to the bounce house, that is fun!

No to skipping out on photographers…

Yes to the nerf idea!

No to the FB invites…

Post # 16
5887 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

id totally be on board with the princess bride officiant lol

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