Post # 1
I became engaged over the holiday weekend and didn’t stop smiling when I walked back into work on Tuesday. I knew that my insane smile and bling would be noticed throughout the day but then the strangest thing happened… for every "congratulation" I received 3 or 4 derogatory "another one bites the dust" comments. It has continued all week…
Did anyone else experience this from their co-workers? How did you deal with it? So far I’ve just smiled and walked away.
I’ve made it a point to not talk about the wedding or do any planning while at work (with the exception of WeddingBee)… what’s a girl to do?
Post # 3
How rude! Some people just suck! I can say some mean things sometimes… For instance when my guy coworker says something like that to me I just remind him of the life I’m going to have and the family we’ll be starting together. Then I follow up with "So are you and girlfriend still fighting over stupid things? You’re not getting any younger… Don’t you wanna get married and start a family of your own?…. Both your older brother AND younger brother are happily married with kids. Does that ever bother you? LOL Kind of mean knowing that him and his Girlfriend were engaged to be married this year but they broke it off and now she’s bouncing between him and some other guy. He’s also one of those "I’m the man I should be doing this this and this… A woman’s job is to…. " By The Way he’s my Assistant Manager.
Don’t sweat it. Live it up!
Post # 4
Is it possible that your co-workers rudeness comes from jealousy? I noticed that when I became engaged the girls whose boyfriends wouldn’t commit and the guys who had tried to ask me out were the ones who made the completely out-of-bounds comments. It sounds like your handling the situation in the best way by not taking their bait. However, if they get out of hand, then I’m all for NorCalBride’s solution! In the meantime, don’t let them steal your joy!
Post # 5
Thank you so much for the advice NorCalBride, you’ve been reading my mind and its my supervisor that is the worst! budgetandthebride – cute name btw – I think you’ve hit the nail on the head! Thanks for the reality check Bees… I won’t let them take me down! xo xo racheljo
Post # 6
It’s called jealousy don’t worry about it.
Post # 7
I have a good one…
When I announced my engagement at work, my co-worker asked how long I had been with my fiance, and I answered 6 months (short time, I know…but it is def. right)
She laughs and yells in front of everyone "long engagement then!"
How rude is she??
Post # 8
Dont worry about them…they are just hating. Most of the response that I got has been positive but there are a couple…oh I’m sorry type of comments. They are so not invited to our wedding!
Post # 9
You’re all right. These people are just bitter or jealous!
@Tripps Agreed – totally not invited to the wedding!
Post # 10
Same thing happened to me, but not with a coworker. One of my mom’s close friends (in her forties and single) said a lot of negative things when she found out I was engaged. My fiance and I have been dating for over three years and have lived together for two. But she kept saying things like "They don’t know each other very well" and "Their marriage isn’t going to last" and "They don’t know each others quirks so they’ll get sick of each other." Turns out she doesn’t even want to meet my fiance…normally she comes over to celebrate Christmas with us (we’ve been doing it for over 15 years…her family lives out of the country, so she’s practically family) and this year she’s refusing to come to Christmas since I’m bringing my fiance!
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2020 - Majestic Colonial Resort, Punta Cana
I agree, it’s not worth worrying over those people. Just enjoy this amazingly fun time!!!
Not everyone knows how to be gracious. My first day at the office after the engagement, my boss was looking at my ring when the CEO walked up and looked at my hand, then looked at my belly and back to the hand and back to the belly, and said: "You’re not… uh…?" Nice, real nice. (And the answer was NO, of course.)