Post # 1
I seem to be getting hit on more since getting engaged. Thought it’d be the other way around, unless it’s all the gym time, primping ie like growing my hair out, nails done, etc and “that glow” making other guys not notice I’m wearing my engagement ring!
Today I had a man literally make a u-turn, get out of his car, and proceed to say, “excuse me, I have a problem. If u saw the most beautiful woman in the world, and didn’t know what to do, what would you do? you’d at least say hi to her, right? I was like “yea…..” Then he goes, “Well, hi. I’m ____” *shakes hand* Me: “Oh… Hi. I’m engaged” Man: “Oh” then gets into his car and drives away. Not even a have a nice day! Just drove off! Rude!
What about you? Got stories?! Do tell… 🙂
Post # 3
More…I think it is because I am happy and when you are that attracts others to you. The vibes you are sending are confidence and happiness. I just sent my Fiance an email Friday night and told him that we are blessed to love each other so much that even when I am hit on I can politely decline.
In my mind I have a man with integrity, courage, dedication, and committment that far excess any man that is potentially interested in me; my Fiance is in Afghainstan.
Post # 4
@niasg1: you’re totally right about the happy vibes. Maybe that’s it. Hope your future hubby comes home soon!
Post # 5
@Diamondgurl: Thank you I hope he does too…Come on now, you know you are attractive on top of your happy vibes…
YOU GO GIRL…KUDOS
Post # 6
Exactly the same, though I find saying ‘I’m engaged’ rather than ‘I have a boyfriend’ tends to make men less persistent; they usually get the message quicker, though, not always!
Post # 7
Less. Much less… much much less. lol
I was actually talking to SO about it the other day after a girls’ night out.
“I don’t get it…I don’t look any worse, haven’t gained any weight. Why aren’t I getting hit on as much?”
“You want guys to hit on you?”
“It makes me feel pretty.”
….silence… “Maybe it’s the ring. Take it off next time you go out.”
Lo and behold! Got free drinks that night.
Maybe I don’t have that happy glow? I feel happy…lol
Post # 8
@Diamondgurl: Less in general since being with FI! I think it has to do with the fact that my main social circles where I used to get hit on were school and parties. But now my social circles consist of work and church, and nobody really gets hit on at these places in my experience. But it’s funny because I had a similar experience with a guy make a u turn and almost cause an accident to jump out of the car and ask for my number! It was so awkward and when Fiance found out he was all irritated lol. I notice men looking at me when I’m out sometimes but they always seem too hesitant to say anything. Maybe the ring is too intimidating hahaa.
Post # 9
Um, less? Though I do find myself casually flashing the ring (wiping a “stray hair” out of my eyes, etc) when I see men at the gym looking at me, etc. lol
Post # 10
Hasn’t changed for me. They see the ring and still hit on me. But it’s no less than usual. Some guy while I was walking with my Fiance holding his hand, some guy steps in front of me and blocks me from walking. Stands there with his hand out to shake mine and tries to hit on me.
Men. I’d be happy if they saw the ring and respected the ring. Hopefully when I get the band with the ring they will go away. I don’t like being hit on. Doesn’t make me feel pretty (my fiance does though) it makes me feel cheap.
Post # 11
I heard it was supposed to be less for us women (and more for the guys) but I haven’t noticed a difference (for either of us) so far.
I think most men don’t even look at the hand and don’t even realize what that ring is. You can usually tell they’re going to hit on you because they spend a lot of time looking at your face (almost staring). I wonder whether if I waved my left hand in front of my face like I was fixing my hair or shooing a bug, it would make a difference, but I doubt it. I really get the sense they aren’t paying attention to rings.
Post # 12
@joya_aspera: Yea I think guys just look for 3 things – face, chest, and booty!
I need to be faster with the hand swipe/phantom stray hair thing to flash the ring, but I’m usually just not fast enough or caught off guard.
Side story- my engaged friend got hit on, and the guy said he could buy her a bigger ring! Ugh… men.
Anyway, I have to go, must practice… Wax on, wax off
Post # 13
I’d say less because I am not going out like I used to and when I do, I am with my Fiance. That said, there have been a few men express interest over the past year and interestingly enough, they were all married and all men who know both of us.
I’ve never really felt gratification from being hit on, so it doesn’t bother me at all that it happens less frequently.
Post # 14
@SeaSalt: ew what creeps!
Post # 15
I think it’s a little less now. If I feel uncomfortable, I’ll make sure they see my ring multiple times. That usually stops the whole thing and I walk away.
Post # 16
I found I got hit on more while engaged. Guys would notice the ring and bring it up in small talk. It was my deduction that they had more confidence to hit on me because I was engaged- there would be no rejection because they already knew I was “taken”. They would usually end the conversation with something like “I wish you and your fiance the best, he’s a lucky guy…” which I assume translates to “I want to seem really kind and genuinely interested in your happiness so you remember me in case things don’t work out.”