- 4 years ago
From the time you were officially a couple, how long did it take him to propose?
Were finances an issue?
Did you have to gently nudge him or did he just go for it?
If you had to basically announce that you feel it’s time – how long did it take after that?
At what point would you have been annoyed if he hadn’t?
I’ve been with my guy for two years (im 26 this year, hes 29) and honestly I am more than ready to be his wife at this point – he is literally my best friend, my everything. I feel SO safe with him it’s actually unreal.
We’ve been talking about it and although he says it will be maximum a year (which hurts to hear only because I’m just so excited to get to that point because we’re so in love) he does hint and giggle that it could be sooner and generally talks about it very openly and does not shut me down which I am sooo grateful for (my ex couldnt even discuss moving in together after 2.5 years – he got the boot quickly after that.)
A lot of random people are starting to ask us whether we’ve thought about it (I even had a client come up to me and ask, and I quote “are you married yet” like no dude I’m not even engaged so pleaaaase shut up) and a couple of nights ago we even had the misfortune of his own aunt/cousin asking us. It was awkward, we both just stared at her blankly until the conversation changed (can’t remember how but I’m so thankful to whoever did that, I wanted to bolt)
Our finances are basically shit but we are literally best friends and we are so in love. I feel like he’s already my DH. I don’t see the problem in putting a (modest but cute, I don’t mind a moise) ring on it before we ‘establish ourselves’ and work towards that together as a couple who wishes to get married some day in the near future. I would be happy to save for a year or two and have a small intimate wedding. I mean I would just elope if I had to (wedding ceremonies give me anxiety, I am more than likely to trip and/or spill something and/or cry and ruin my make up and/or laugh my ass off & clap like a seal at inappropriate moments)
I trust him when he says he WANTS to (he acts like a husband more than a lot of husbands do, and a great one too) but wants us to have more money, but I think about it probably on a daily basis at this point. I know it’s silly, but my social media is basically packed with couples at the moment and it sucks.
Would you be annoyed, or would you just wait another year max? I feel like we have a great relationship and in my head, it just makes sense, we spend every day together almost and we always have a great time., we both have secure jobs even though they don’t pay well, and we love each others families too which is great.
Obviously, I don’t want this to become a topic that feels uncomfortable discussing, so I am keeping all conversations light and flirty, but heartfelt, but honestly, waiting a year sounds like heeeell. I hate the feeling of being his ‘gf’ it just sounds petty compared to how amazing we are as a couple.