(Closed) ENGAGED! ….Now what?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1257 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree with you about a long engagement. Our engagement is 19 months and I don’t regret it. Everyone is going to ask you a million questions but my advice is to just enhoy being engaged for a few months and then start the planning. In order to do that, you probably wouldn’t want to set  date for next year. IMO longer engagements are better because you don’t feel the pressure to rush your decisions about everything. In addition, this is supposed to be a happy time for the two of you, so enjoy each other and hold off on the stress of planning a wedding.

Post # 4
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@candydots:  Congratulations! What an exciting time. Here’s a few tips from my experience.

1. Enjoy it for a week or two. Don’t worry about getting started right way.

2. Sit down with your fiance and decide what matters the most to you. I can’t find it now, but there are little questionnaires that you can download to go over together. For example, it lists out 20 adjectives and you both circle three that describe the type of wedding you want. Another question would be to mark out the top three things that matter the most to you for the wedding. This is really helpful to make sure you’re on the same page and that you have an idea of your theme.

3. Figure out your budget. Remember that any help you get from parents is a gift, and not a given.

4. Make your first pass at an invitee list.


Get through these steps first before you worry about books and blogs. If you do those four things, the rest of the stuff gets way easier.

My favorite wedding blogs:


Style Me Pretty

East Side Bride

Green Wedding shoes

Post # 5
4415 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Congrats! This is such an exciting time! I agree…take some time to really just enjoy this step. It’s amazing how much closer you feel to your SO when you become engaged. Make sure to have time just the two of you to celebrate and celebrate with friends (even before the engagemnt party). We told our families and then headed to dinner with our closest friends. It was a nice way to celebrate immediately and let everything sink in. After that, I would start talking with your fiance about what type of wedding you want (traditional, Destination Wedding, romantic, evening, afternoon, etc.) and talk to each other and your families about budget. Once you get the main idea of what you guys want your wedding to be, then you can start with the details. I think the engagement period is up to both of you. My fiance and I talked about waiting until Dec. 2014 to get married (I’ve always wanted a winter wedding and once I talked to him about some of the ideas he was sold), but we realized we couldn’t wait 25 months. Our engagement will be 13 months and I think it is perfect. It depends on what you both have going on. We didn’t want any sooner (we got engaged in Nov. 2012) as I was in the middle of my first year of teaching and an accelerated Master’s program. My Fiance is also in school, so we knew about a year was perfect. Most of all…enjoy this time!

Post # 6
2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@candydots:  “A Practical Wedding” by Meg Keene (there’s also the website – http://www.apracticalwedding.com )

Figure out your budget and try to start working on a guest list.


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