- 11 years ago
- Wedding: April 2010
My fiance proposed one month ago without a ring. I was truly overjoyed! He knew I wanted to pick something out together, so he said we find the ring.
After three week of work related travel abroad (where I sometimes joined him), he’s back but shows little interest in shopping for an engagement ring. I’ve had to ask him directly to come with me to the jewelry store to see the style I like. He knows where I’ve bookmarked ring websites on our computer. But, he’s not *engaging* me and shows only excitement for the wedding and marriage.
Jewelry is not important to my Fiance, and getting him to understand that I want a ring has me crying already. He’s planning for a spring wedding, and has announced our engagement to all his friends and family. Telling him I want to wait until I get a ring before plans and announcements seems to have no effect.
I now realize he didn’t save for a ring. I loaned money to my FI’s nonprofit ($10k), which is now due to me. Paying for my own ring would leave me resentful, or my Fiance lonely.
Working in finance with hyper judgmental colleagues and clients hasn’t helped my outlook. But, I am starting to wonder whether I have premature jitters or greater concerns about my FI’s financial responsibility and capacity to value things, just because I do.