(Closed) Engaged One Week- Already Overwhelmed w/ Venue & Planning

posted 4 years ago in Venue
  • poll: Just book something?
    Book something in Tybee Island it is where you really want to be although venue may be very informal : (12 votes)
    32 %
    Book something in MA/NH/ME/RI etc it is easier to plan near you and its near some friends : (11 votes)
    29 %
    Don't book yet, enjoy the engagement and look again 6 months before : (15 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    its early in the game… so here is my advice.  you and your fiance sit down and talk it all out about exactly what YOU WANT.  don’t talk to your mom. don’t ask you co-workers. dont talk to friends. talk to each other. figure out exactly what you want. and stick to it. because my best advice i can tell you is you’ll save yourself a lot of heartache if you keep most your plans/ideas between you two and stick to your vision.  doesn’t really answer your question, but I guess I’m saying take a step back. don’t feel rushed. I’ve planned a beautiful wedding in 6 months, so don’t let May 2014 freak you out. 

    Post # 4
    8701 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Does the wedding HAVE to be in May 2014 at Tybee Island? Honestly, you are stressing yourself. If you stay at this pace it will just get worse. I would probably look where you are from and/or take a break and enjoy my engagement for at least a month. 

    ETA: I started planning my September wedding around Halloween last year so it doesnt have to be stressful. I find that it (the planning) is what you make it out to be. You need to be on the same page as your FI, figure out a budget, and work from there.

    Post # 5
    82 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Sodo Park

    Take a deep breath!

    Okay. So this totally happened to me. Then Sparky told me “if planning the wedding isn’t fun, then we need to take a break until it is fun.” He was right! Even taking a week to just enjoy ourselves allowed me to dive back in with fresh energy.

    Post # 6
    1781 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    my biggest stress with wedding planning was picking the venue! it sets the date, the setting, and gives you a goal and timeline. Go with your heart on the location! You’ll feel better once you get the venue. Being engaged is soooo fun/dreamy/amazing but the stress will also be there and won’t fully go away! As one expectations may not be met based on money, availability, etc. but everything will be okay in the end!

    Post # 8
    12103 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I totally did the same thing.  I’ve been engaged 2 months and 1 week 🙂

    I stressed out and went minor bridezilla for a about a week 2 weeks after I got engaged.  I have since calmed down (although I have my freak out moments).  We don’t have a venue yet (although we’re looking a 2 more tomorrow).  What relieved a lot of MY stress was sitting down with my FH and having an honest conversation about where.  Once we decided that I felt a lot better.  It’s what’s best for US.  No matter where the wedding is it will be bad for about half our guests – like you’re they’re all over.  Decide what YOU want and go from there!

    Post # 9
    3969 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I know you want beach, but have you considered “lake beaches.” New England does have many lakes with beautiful beaches with small inns nearby that aren’t traditional wedding venues that can make for a more inexpensive affair.

    Post # 10
    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I went through the same thing.  I agree with the poster that said to stop talking to friends, family, etc and just take a deep breath, meditate on what YOU want and then sit down and have a chat with your fiance.  Focus on what feels most right to you two and then you might feel less stressed (I realized that most of my stress was coming from trying to please others and not listening to my own instincts).  Once you cut out all of the other noise, you’ll be able to focus better. If Tybee is really what you want – go for it!  Savannah is another great destination wedding option – you could do an intimate wedding at one of the hotels overlooking the river or at one of the B&Bs down there…I think they are pretty reasonably priced.

    Post # 11
    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Have you searched for vacation rentals on Tybee Island? You might have to hunt around to find one with the number of bedrooms you want or a big enough common space to move the wedding to if it rains, but I bet you could find something. This one looks like it has a nice big room that’s all windows:


    Post # 12
    9178 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I was a lot more stressed out in the beginning when I was trying to find a venue.  Once I got that set up I found myself much more relaxed!  Since I’ve had almost all of my vendors booked I haven’t had much wedding stress at all.  If it makes you feel any better, I think it will get better once you find that venue!

    Post # 13
    1968 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I was the same way! But my FI refused to talk about any wedding plans for the first mo th (which drove me CRAZY because I’m a plan-o-holic) but it really made me sit back and truely enjoy being engaged before jumping into wedding mode. it also gave me time to really think about what I wanted. 

    my advice to you is as soon as you’re no longer enjoying being engaged, (and lets face it, you’re only a weeks in, so you should still be stuck in the perma-smile phase!)  Step back and just cuddle up to your fella for a bit!

    also, everyone will have opinions and you won’t be able to please everyone, so make sure you do what you guys want! That’s most important! (But the venue/location is the hardest part, the rest is fun)

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Enjoy this time!! 

    Post # 14
    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @jmLL:  I am getting married in Anna Maria Island, FL. It’s really laid back and beautiful. I am not sure what your budget is, but they have a lot of places to work with!

    Post # 16
    18 posts

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